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You Attract What You Are, Not What You Want

That's the honest truth!

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You Attract What You Are, Not What You Want

How many times have we thought to ourselves, "there are no good guys out there. All the good ones are taken." I know I have had my fair share of those thoughts and vent sessions, frustrated that all the guys around me were, to be frank, stupid. Living in a college town, this stupidity only seems to be magnified. The typical college guy, who only cares about alcohol, sex, and making sure they were "satisfied" with no regard to girl's emotions seem to be the only ones around.

Now for most girls, this is not at all attractive, but when it's the only thing around, they give in. It becomes the whole "I'd rather lower my standards and have somebody than be lonely" mentality. However, with this comes even more vent sessions and heartaches about feeling used and wondering what you did for him to ghost you.

First, ladies, remember to set those standards high and keep them there. Second, I want to remind that you attract what you are, not what you want. If you are someone that likes to dress provocatively and show off your body, you are going to attract a man that only wants to use you for your body. If you are someone who involves herself in volunteer work with your church, you will attract a man who loves Jesus and serves others as you do. Not to say that every man that you attract will be like this, but there is a much higher chance you will attract that kind of person because you are that kind of person.

It is the hard truth, but it's one that needs to be said. A while ago I heard a girl talk about how all guys are "pigs" and there are "no gentlemen out there" because they were talking about her body when earlier that day she posted a picture of her in a tiny bikini showing most of her body. I just wanted to tell her what I'm saying now: You attract what you are, not what you want.

If you want a good guy, become the good girl that that good guy deserves. If you want a holy man, realize that a holy man will less likely be attracted to a girl who spends all their time getting wasted at a club four nights a week. If you want a man who respects you, respect yourself and dress like someone who has more to offer than just her body.

Next time you're feeling at a loss for finding any "good guys," think about the person you are, the people you're surrounding yourself with, and if you would want to date a guy with the habits you have. If you wouldn't, then start thinking about how to better yourself for you and for your future man. I promise, when you look inward and begin to improve yourself, you will attract the right people and save yourself the heartache of being with the wrong guys!

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