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16 Weird Ways Asian Moms Say ‘I Love You,’ Without Actually Saying It

Yeah, she's never actually said it to me, but I know she does in fact love me.


In Asian culture affection is rarely ever shown between parents and their children, whether it's big hugs, smooches, or even saying the words, "I love you." Parental love is usually shown through actions rather than words. They try to show you that you are important to them without actually ever saying it, and it took me twenty years to realize. My friends and their parents always exchanged adorable gestures with each other and have always wondered why my parents didn't show me love the same way. Below are some ways that I've noticed how my mom shows it, let me know if you can relate!

1. Cutting up fruit and randomly giving it to you


It will literally be so random and sometimes even multiple times a day! Just putting a plate of cut up apples on my desk, casually.

2. Surprising you with gifts out of the blue


When she goes out shopping and comes back with loads of goodies for you, how'd you know I wanted this new perfume ma? What's the catch, it's not my birthday any time soon? Is this a test? Thank you though. Why are you so hard to read?

3. Making you go everywhere with her

roll eyes

OK I get it you just want my company but come on mom do I have to go to Walgreens with you?

4. Asking if you've eaten


Yes I've eaten, I'm in college that's literally all I do mom. Why do you use this as an excuse to ask me how I'm doing?

5. Needing to know where you are all the time

angry text

I'm in class. Yes, mom, I have a class till 5 p.m. Please believe me. Yes, I also have an 8 a.m. Yes, I'm actually at the library. No, Willy T. is not a guy I'm seeing.

6. Throwing the nearest object at you when you do something stupid

throwing at someone

I'm always curious to see what you'll throw next, a banana? A tissue box? Your knee brace? Why use up all your energy, just yell at me.

7. The shoe

throwing shoe

No explanation needed.

8. Criticizing your driving

oh my god

I'm going the speed limit I swear! Next time, you drive.

9. Showering you with compliments indirectly in front of other Asian people

oh really

Interesting, this is the first time I'm hearing this as well fellow family friends.

10.  Making watching Asian films and soap operas together a tradition

watching a movie

Yes I'll watch that drama with you again, no I won't speak while we watch and neither will you.

11.  Not letting you leave the house after 8 p.m.

lilo pillow

Live footage of me after saying no to hanging out with all my friends because I can't go out past sundown.

12.  Asking about any Asian boys you’re interested in at college


I know you're not the one who is interested, it's actually grandma who's been bugging you about it and you need an answer. Yes I know, preferably the same religion. Got it. Tell Nani I'm not getting married any time soon.

13.  Teaching you how to make tea

drinking tea

My chai will never ever be as good as yours.

14.  Forcing homemade remedies on you

face mask

Live footage of my mom putting on some face mask on me that she made out of eggs and other unknown substances to get rid of the one pimple I've been complaining about. She swears by it.

15.  Not letting you be an adult until you’re...nvm that’s not happening


Yeah I've come to the realization that I will never be seen as an adult in your eyes.

16.  They came all the way to America leaving literally everything they had, for you

head nod

You're the real MVP for coming to an unfamiliar place to give me a better future. Many thanks.

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Dear Mom, I Hope You Know

I hope you know that I am here for you — until the very end.


Dear Mom,

I hope you know that I appreciate you.

You are the hardest working woman I know, continuously putting your family before yourself. Thank you for doing all of the tedious jobs that no one wants to do like keeping the house in order, cooking the food, and doing the laundry. Thank you for constantly putting up with my siblings and I. Thank you for always supporting us in our interests and hobbies. Thank you for investing in our daily lives and listening to our minor problems. Thank you for always loving us unconditionally.

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I hope you know I'm sorry.

I know I can be a big pain in the butt sometimes, and for that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for yelling at you, arguing with you, not listening to you, and making dumb decisions at times, but thank you for loving me anyways. Thank you for helping me stand back up, teaching me right from wrong, and pushing me to be the very best version of me.

I hope you know your love inspires me.

You live your life with a love that is contagious. Whether its nurturing love, tough love, friendly love, or romantic love, you have it all and you show it daily. The love you and Dad share is something I hope to find one day and the love you have for your family is evident in the way you constantly put us first.

I hope you know that you are my biggest role model and hero.

Ever since I was a little girl, you have been the person I have looked to in my life. You are strong, independent, confident, loving, supportive, and nurturing — everything I strive to be as a woman and as a future mother. You give the best advice, even when I don't always take it. Though, I should know better by now because mothers always know best. Without you in my life, I honestly don't know where I'd be.

I hope you know that you are my best friend.

Not only are you my biggest cheerleader supporting me in everything I do, you are the person I talk to about everything, whether it's good or bad. I'm honestly so thankful for the relationship we share because I've had countless screwups and you literally give the best advice. Seriously, thank you for being the person I can count on at all times, at any time of the day or even night to just talk with. I mean we really do have some of the best conversations, best laughs, best cries (when needed), and the most fun watching cheesy chick flicks together or going on crazy shopping adventures.

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I hope you know that I am here for you — until the very end.

I don't mean to make you cry or anything — even though you probably already are, but I want you to know that when the time comes, I'm going to be there for you just like all of these years you've been here for me. I will be there to support you, talk with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and love you for all of my life.

Honestly, I can't really imagine my life without you — but it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be here without you, so here's to you.

Thank you for being you.

Love you lots!

Your daughter

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My Mom Is The Reason I Know So Much About Baseball

So no, men are not the only ones who can teach their children about sports.


For as long as I can remember, I have heard my mom talk about her love for baseball, specifically the Los Angeles Dodgers. Growing up, I always thought her love for the game was a little much, but in June 2016, I understood why she loved the game so much.

One of the most common stereotypes you come across is that men know sports, and women do not. But my mom and I can confidently say that is a misconception. Growing up, I was a little bit of the odd sibling, in that I did not want to perform. My dad has always been the entertainer. He loves to entertain people despite the fact that he is a doctor, but I guess that is entertaining people on some level. Both my sister and brother got their collegiate degrees within entertainment, but me, on the other hand, wanted to be away from the spotlight. So, I am happy my mom's love for the Dodgers rubbed off on me right before I headed off to college.

For the past three years, I have followed every pitch, every at-bat, and every catch done by the Dodgers. A little extra, right? Wrong. I saw a saying the other day that said, "Obsessed is what the lazy call the dedicated." So, I am just dedicated to the Dodgers. Since the Dodgers are on the west coast, and I am on the east coast, their games can go until 2:00 a.m. my time. And yes, it is not out of the ordinary for me and my mom to stay up that late, especially if it is a good game.

Being a woman who is planning to pursue a career in within sports medicine, it can be intimidating. I mean look at the MLB, do you see an equal amount of women to men that are a part of the medical staff? The answer is no. But that does not mean that women are not capable of being part of the staff.

Fun fact: The first female head athletic trainer in the MLB was Sue Falsone, and she was hired by the Dodgers. I got to sit down with the Dodgers' head athletic trainer over spring break to ask him some question about the career. Not only was he more than willing to show me around the training facility, but made sure to let me know that women are making their way into the industry and that it is not impossible. I even got a peek at one of the players and kept my cool, so now I know I am ready for this career.

The moral of the story is women can know just as much, if not more, about sports than men. And if you disagree, you are probably a man.

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