16 Weird Ways Asian Moms Say ‘I Love You,’ Without Actually Saying It

16 Weird Ways Asian Moms Say ‘I Love You,’ Without Actually Saying It

Yeah, she's never actually said it to me, but I know she does in fact love me.


In Asian culture affection is rarely ever shown between parents and their children, whether it's big hugs, smooches, or even saying the words, "I love you." Parental love is usually shown through actions rather than words. They try to show you that you are important to them without actually ever saying it, and it took me twenty years to realize. My friends and their parents always exchanged adorable gestures with each other and have always wondered why my parents didn't show me love the same way. Below are some ways that I've noticed how my mom shows it, let me know if you can relate!

1. Cutting up fruit and randomly giving it to you


It will literally be so random and sometimes even multiple times a day! Just putting a plate of cut up apples on my desk, casually.

2. Surprising you with gifts out of the blue


When she goes out shopping and comes back with loads of goodies for you, how'd you know I wanted this new perfume ma? What's the catch, it's not my birthday any time soon? Is this a test? Thank you though. Why are you so hard to read?

3. Making you go everywhere with her

roll eyes

OK I get it you just want my company but come on mom do I have to go to Walgreens with you?

4. Asking if you've eaten


Yes I've eaten, I'm in college that's literally all I do mom. Why do you use this as an excuse to ask me how I'm doing?

5. Needing to know where you are all the time

angry text

I'm in class. Yes, mom, I have a class till 5 p.m. Please believe me. Yes, I also have an 8 a.m. Yes, I'm actually at the library. No, Willy T. is not a guy I'm seeing.

6. Throwing the nearest object at you when you do something stupid

throwing at someone

I'm always curious to see what you'll throw next, a banana? A tissue box? Your knee brace? Why use up all your energy, just yell at me.

7. The shoe

throwing shoe

No explanation needed.

8. Criticizing your driving

oh my god

I'm going the speed limit I swear! Next time, you drive.

9. Showering you with compliments indirectly in front of other Asian people

oh really

Interesting, this is the first time I'm hearing this as well fellow family friends.

10.  Making watching Asian films and soap operas together a tradition

watching a movie

Yes I'll watch that drama with you again, no I won't speak while we watch and neither will you.

11.  Not letting you leave the house after 8 p.m.

lilo pillow

Live footage of me after saying no to hanging out with all my friends because I can't go out past sundown.

12.  Asking about any Asian boys you’re interested in at college


I know you're not the one who is interested, it's actually grandma who's been bugging you about it and you need an answer. Yes I know, preferably the same religion. Got it. Tell Nani I'm not getting married any time soon.

13.  Teaching you how to make tea

drinking tea

My chai will never ever be as good as yours.

14.  Forcing homemade remedies on you

face mask

Live footage of my mom putting on some face mask on me that she made out of eggs and other unknown substances to get rid of the one pimple I've been complaining about. She swears by it.

15.  Not letting you be an adult until you’re...nvm that’s not happening


Yeah I've come to the realization that I will never be seen as an adult in your eyes.

16.  They came all the way to America leaving literally everything they had, for you

head nod

You're the real MVP for coming to an unfamiliar place to give me a better future. Many thanks.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Motherhood Gives Women Skills That Are Beneficial No Matter Where Life Them

I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman.


Growing up shouldn't necessarily mean moving onto the next level in your life and becoming completely mature for your age. Actually, it should also be a "glowing" phase in your life. Honestly, I have been under the impression that growing only refers to aging physically and the eventual understanding of a person's countless responsibilities/duties.

However, I have begun to realize what the "glowing" aspect of growing actually means. It is when a young girl gets married and then proceeds towards the next phase of life called motherhood. This is exactly when the evolution of the young girl actually begins.

I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman. I'm saying this due to my recent conversation with my mother, aunt, and grandma. I began by asking them what was the most fruitful journey in your life? All of them answered by saying that motherhood shaped their life extensively and further provided them with another full-fledged reason to live.

In other words, they have briefly mentioned that babies are just like flowers that have to be nurtured immensely in order to fully bloom. After hearing this, I have fully understood why women tend to glow the most when they are expecting! In fact, the biological process of creating life and then bringing a couple's symbol of love into the world is indeed an amazing feat.

It is astonishing how motherhood can change a woman's life remarkably. During our conversation, I was able to learn how much hard work is dedicated toward nourishing a child and their overall upbringing. I'm forever grateful for what my mom has done for me and is still doing for me till this day. It takes an enormous amount of stamina and courage to effectively bring up a child and I have carefully observed my mother throughout the years. Essentially, women are no longer completely free to behave irrationally and impatiently. Motherhood exposes them to many life-changing skills, many of which revolve around time management and patience.

On the other side of the spectrum, once a woman becomes a mother, they have to make some important career-changing decisions. Many mothers become working mothers and some become stay-at-home mothers for some time. Some mothers tend to devote most of their time playing and taking care of their children just like my mother and grandma. Whereas, many women are awesome at both balancing work and their motherly responsibilities.

I'm from the school of thought that women are free to decide what they want best and they shouldn't be restrained from venturing out and advancing in their careers. Excelling in their careers is an incredible delight if they have full support from their family and are able to actively balance both responsibilities.

A mother's love is unconditional and we will always be indebted to them for bringing us into the world. Finally, I would like to give a shout out to all the amazing super-women out there who have proved to be affectionate, creative, and impressive role-models for their children!

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