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16 Weird Ways Asian Moms Say ‘I Love You,’ Without Actually Saying It

Yeah, she's never actually said it to me, but I know she does in fact love me.

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Jan 23, 2019

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In Asian culture affection is rarely ever shown between parents and their children, whether it's big hugs, smooches, or even saying the words, "I love you." Parental love is usually shown through actions rather than words. They try to show you that you are important to them without actually ever saying it, and it took me twenty years to realize. My friends and their parents always exchanged adorable gestures with each other and have always wondered why my parents didn't show me love the same way. Below are some ways that I've noticed how my mom shows it, let me know if you can relate!

Cutting up fruit and randomly giving it to you

It will literally be so random and sometimes even multiple times a day! Just putting a plate of cut up apples on my desk, casually.

Surprising you with gifts out of the blue

When she goes out shopping and comes back with loads of goodies for you, how'd you know I wanted this new perfume ma? What's the catch, it's not my birthday any time soon? Is this a test? Thank you though. Why are you so hard to read?

Making you go everywhere with her

OK I get it you just want my company but come on mom do I have to go to Walgreens with you?

Asking if you've eaten

Yes I've eaten, I'm in college that's literally all I do mom. Why do you use this as an excuse to ask me how I'm doing?

Needing to know where you are all the time

I'm in class. Yes, mom, I have a class till 5 p.m. Please believe me. Yes, I also have an 8 a.m. Yes, I'm actually at the library. No, Willy T. is not a guy I'm seeing.

Throwing the nearest object at you when you do something stupid

I'm always curious to see what you'll throw next, a banana? A tissue box? Your knee brace? Why use up all your energy, just yell at me.

The shoe

No explanation needed.

Criticizing your driving

I'm going the speed limit I swear! Next time, you drive.

Showering you with compliments indirectly in front of other Asian people

Interesting, this is the first time I'm hearing this as well fellow family friends.

Making watching Asian films and soap operas together a tradition

Yes I'll watch that drama with you again, no I won't speak while we watch and neither will you.

Not letting you leave the house after 8 p.m.

Live footage of me after saying no to hanging out with all my friends because I can't go out past sundown.

Asking about any Asian boys you’re interested in at college

I know you're not the one who is interested, it's actually grandma who's been bugging you about it and you need an answer. Yes I know, preferably the same religion. Got it. Tell Nani I'm not getting married any time soon.

Teaching you how to make tea

My chai will never ever be as good as yours.

Forcing homemade remedies on you

Live footage of my mom putting on some face mask on me that she made out of eggs and other unknown substances to get rid of the one pimple I've been complaining about. She swears by it.

Not letting you be an adult until you’re...nvm that’s not happening

Yeah I've come to the realization that I will never be seen as an adult in your eyes.

They came all the way to America leaving literally everything they had, for you

You're the real MVP for coming to an unfamiliar place to give me a better future. Many thanks.

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16 Weird Ways Asian Moms Say ‘I Love You,’ Without Actually Saying It

Yeah, she's never actually said it to me, but I know she does in fact love me.

Cutting up fruit and randomly giving it to you

Surprising you with gifts out of the blue

Making you go everywhere with her

Asking if you've eaten

Needing to know where you are all the time

Throwing the nearest object at you when you do something stupid

The shoe

Criticizing your driving

Showering you with compliments indirectly in front of other Asian people

Making watching Asian films and soap operas together a tradition

Not letting you leave the house after 8 p.m.

Asking about any Asian boys you’re interested in at college

Teaching you how to make tea

Forcing homemade remedies on you

Not letting you be an adult until you’re...nvm that’s not happening

They came all the way to America leaving literally everything they had, for you

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

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2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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