The longer I have been engaged the more often I seem to get this question. The question that my fiancé and I dread the most: Aren’t you just so excited to be getting married/planning your wedding/etc.? My answer has also been the same from the very first person who asked me to the person who will probably ask me tomorrow: No.
So right now you’re thinking the same thing that all of those people who give me the most amazing reaction faces are thinking, right? How could you possibly not be excited to get married/plan your wedding/etc.? Don’t you love your fiancé? Isn’t wedding planning just so exciting? And some of you are probably also thinking that I’m not grateful to be at this stage in my life.
However, none of those are correct. For me, wedding planning is just not the most fun thing I’ve ever done. I just described it to my fiancé recently as an experience that often makes me want to pull my own hair out. Don’t get me wrong, y’all—I love my fiancé. He is my absolute best friend in the entire world and I am so excited to become his wife and partner in life. I am so excited for our wedding day and every day after that because it means that I get to have my best friend as my husband. I am also so thankful for my amazingly supportive family. They have helped me throughout every step of this process and reminded me to not ever let things get too overwhelming. No matter how many times people tell me not to stress about it, I have a really hard time not stressing because I still want to be involved in planning my wedding.
Yes, I know, I cannot plan for everything. It’s inevitable that something is going to be imperfect. It could rain all day. I could get sick or my fiancé could get sick. Something could go wrong with my dress. And a million other little things that 25, 30, 40, 50 years later will be a faint memory for me. Guess what? I am totally, 100 percent fine with that, but it doesn’t help me plan, because I know those are things that just cannot be planned for.
The one thing I have learned throughout this entire process? To all of my fellow brides out there: Stress is inevitable, but don’t worry—just embrace the process, because without the process your day would not be all that you have hoped for. I hope for a special day where I can celebrate the love that my fiancé and I share for each other with the people we love the most. If that is what my wedding day is like, then I’ll be the happiest bride—regardless of what music is playing, what the flowers look like, what the dress I’m wearing looks like, what the food tastes like, or what the weather outside is that day.
Happy Wedding Planning to all my fellow brides, and remember, it all ends with a beautiful celebration of your love for one another!
