Everyone has that one friend that they can talk to, complain to and share their secrets without having to worry about them sharing your business. This person is great at giving advice and being the shoulder that you cry on. If by chance, you can’t think of anyone in mind then sadly my dear, you are that friend. You are charged with the title of mom friend. Do not fret, it’s not all so bad.
Pros of being the mom friend:
- The biggest pro is that you are very needed. Your friends come to you for advice and to share their struggles. The things that they can’t tell their real mom, they tell you.
- Your friends think that you are reliable and trusting, they have no problem introducing you as a great person, even if you don’t think that you are. People have a tendency to take you more seriously even if you really are a huge dork.
- You get to give them advice; if you are anything like me, you probably don’t have all of the answers, but don’t let them know that. You get to tell people what they want to hear without actually having all of the answers.
- You finally have enough dirt on all of your friends. If there is ever a situation where your friends get on your nerves, give them that mom look, you know the one. The side eye that says I could end you, and guarantees that they remember how easily you could blackmail them. I hope for their sake that you really aren’t a spiteful person.
Cons of being the mom friend:
- Did I mention that people need you? If you aren’t the type that enjoys attention or giving advise, this is something that terrifies you. Why do people want to need you so much? Sometimes you feel that when someone calls you,it's only because they want something.
- You probably can cook or often have food in, which means somehow, conveniently, your friends will show up just in time to eat your food. You are nice enough to share so that probably means that you are usually hungrier than you let on.
- You know everybody’s secrets and you can’t tell anyone about it. You lucky individual, you. You have the exclusive honor of carrying everyone else’s burdens.
- You don’t have any one to confide in. You are the mom friend, and that means that you don’t really have someone to share your worries with. Unless you have a dad friend; but let’s face it, no one wants a dad friend. They’d just make bad jokes and pretend to listen.
- You go between feeling like you want to be alone and feeling that you want to be around your friends but you wonder how well they know you.
No one will really be able to understand you the way that other mom friends do. It's a calling and a burden, but you are part of an elite group. You can help people through their tough times and give advice; and although it may be tough for you sometimes, it can be quite rewarding to feel needed.
