Love has always been something that has been in the air since we've been born. The idea of love has only grown as we grew older. We started learning more about love. Since we were little, we were told we would marry "the one." This person would be your soulmate. This person would be the one that understands you more than anybody else. This person would be the one that you spend the rest of your life with. "So whoever it is, make sure you choose wisely."

Now, we're onto our adolescence. We date because we are interested. We date and we learn more about ourselves. We learn how we are with others; we learn who we are most compatible with. There are the qiuck flings here and there that we called puppy love. "It was called the in the moment love."

Now we grow older. When we date, we date because we want this person to be "the one." We want this person to be the person we will marry and spend the rest of our lives with. We stop the dating for fun now. We date for something serious that will last. We think to ourselves, that if it is meant to be it will happen. "Fate will bring you guys together."

Is it really all fate? Is it really what is meant to be will be? Or is there more? "Well there's timing too."

We have all grown up to believe that we will run into our significant other one day. Fate will bring us together. It's what makes love so romantic and spontaneous. It is the idea that one day you will run into the person you will spend the rest of your life with. But we also tend to forget that timing is a big role in love.

We all have different types of lives. We carry different careers on our backs. We have an image of a person that we want to be. We are all in different stages of our lives when we meet and connect with people. Some of us are too into our track that we created for ourselves that we are not ready to let someone in to love. Some of us are ready and set to open their hearts to love another.

You can meet someone who may not be the best person for you, yet at the same time, love them for everything that they do - the good and the bad. It may be even that this person may not be able to reciprocate those feelings and actions to you, but you will still try and do everything that you can to fight for this person. Why is it that this happens? It is because you decided that this was the time that you are ready to love someone. So why is it not working out right? Because this person that you are trying to let in and love is not ready to do that. Even if this person truly wanted to be ready, he/she just isn't ready and you cannot force that.

So there goes another relationship that you try to go back and forth with to fix. Maybe if you had met this person in a different time in your life, things would have been different. But that's the thing about time. We can try to tell each other "What's meant to be will happen," but if you choose the wrong time for it to happen, even if it is meant to be - it can easily fall apart.

It could be any person who walks into your life. If timing is right, that person could just be the one. That's the thing about timing. It is the reason why people continue to fight for these relationships. It takes more to believe that our hearts are not ready to love and give to another person than to continue to fight for a relationship that is falling apart. So that's what we do. We fight instead of facing the truth.

We've all had a relationship or know of someone who had a relationship that did not work out because of timing. "We did not work out because the timing wasn't right." Well I guess it was because your lives were going two different ways or you two just were not ready for one another. You probably said this to another person while giving advice to them at one point in your life.

And that's another thing about timing. Timing is everything. You can find the perfect person, but when timing is not here, you can forget about how perfect you guys are for one another. You both cannot love each other completely if the timing is not right. One of you guys can love more, while one may be struggling to continue to love.

So the next time you approach love and you think this is it, know what you are doing. Know that trying to fight timing will only dig you both into a hole of complications and hard emotions to control. If you think you have the right timing, make sure this person does too. Because as much as you love someone, you cannot change them to be ready for something that they are not. Don't wait around for someone to be ready. Let yourself live. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with the people you get yourself involved with. Why? Because you deserve to be with someone who is ready to love you completely. This person is someone who knows he/she is ready to let you in and love you.

I know it sucks sometimes. Timing can suck. It controls not just our love lives, but every other aspect of our lives. Don't let that stop you from living. Continue to be you. Be happy. And be grateful that you had the time to do the amazing things you've done already. Be grateful that you've met the people that you did with the time that you had so far. Be grateful that you still have time to have things be right.