Being alone is one of the most common fears across the world — the fear that you won't find that person you're supposed to end up with or even the fear of having no one in your life that you can turn to in a time of need. But what does this fear cause? It causes people to jump into relationship after relationship and even pick the wrong friends because they are so desperate. People who are afraid of being alone never know the joys and pleasure of spending time alone. You don't have to be alone to be lonely. You can have so many friends and be in a relationship, but feel lonely.
I used to know someone who's biggest fear was being alone. After being a long relationship, this person jumped right into another one. Granted, this person could have been over their ex, but everyone needs time to be alone. Everyone needs time to figure out who they are outside of their significant other especially when you break up. Everyone needs time to be their own person and not rely on anyone else. Being afraid to be alone is causing people to put themselves second time after time. Being alone causes you to think about what is best for you while sometimes being in a relationship causes you to put the other person first. There is nothing wrong with putting your significant other first, but you also need to do what is best for you and if that is being alone, then you need to do it. You need to put yourself first and figure out who you are and what you like outside of a relationship.
I used to hate being alone. I felt like I had no one to talk to and that my life was empty. Now, I can't imagine not being alone. I love being independent and doing what I want to do. I love putting myself first and making time to do the things that I have always enjoyed but never had time for. I am not lonely — in fact, I feel more full of life than I ever did in a relationship, and it took feeling lonely to get to this point.
Being alone is not the same as being lonely. Being alone can mean you're independent. It can mean you're actually loved by many people, but you don't need them to make you happy or make you feel whole. You can be in a relationship and feel lonely. People need time to figure out what makes them happy and not what makes another person happy. They need time to do things by themselves, even though sometimes you just want someone to experience the world with. Take time to laugh and cry and enjoy the little things.
