Do Soulmates Exist?

Do Soulmates Exist?

Social construct or divine intervention?

My brother and I have argued over this question countless of times. My brother is a total nonbeliever, saying someone is your "soulmate" simply because they're the person you end up with. And I'm a total believer, saying even though not everyone ends up with one ultimate soulmate, soulmates definitely exist.

I decided I needed more opinions, so I sent out an anonymous questionnaire asking people if they believed in soulmates, why or why not, and is there an example from their life that gives them this belief? And the answers I received were both amazing and emotional.

Out of all the responses, half said they did believe in soulmates, and the rest were a mix of non-believers and those with an unconventional idea of what "soulmates" is. I think this is a difficult question just because there is no clear-cut definition of "soulmate." Is it just one person? Or, like some people suggested, can we have multiple soulmates? And is it always a romantic relationship? Or can soulmates cross over into friendships and other relationships as well?

People were really honest about how they felt and why they felt that way. A lot of people stated that they don't think soulmates exist because of the sheer amount of people in world, and the impossibility that we could meet our soulmate. One person stated:

"No, I think that is way too much pressure. It would be way too easy not to meet them, and then what? You never feel fulfilled with who you end up with? I think that while there is fate and things that are meant to be, there's not ONE single person who we are meant for."

Other people said that we have multiple soulmates that come in multiple forms, and some people said soulmates exist and we all end up with our soulmate if we are able to realize we belong together. Others said that because you end up with someone they are your "soulmate."

Surprisingly, there were people who were optimistic about soulmates. Some said the universe has a way of making sure you end up with the person you're supposed to end up with, and others say they know soulmates exist because their parents are obviously soulmates or the person they're currently with is their soulmate. And one person who submitted this opinion does a pretty good job of summing up my beliefs on the matter:

"I believe that soulmates do exist but I don't think they are the only people we can fall in love with. I think only some people find their soulmates, but others find genuine love as well."

In my opinion, I believe soulmates exist, but I don't believe everyone ends up with their soulmate. I think you're very lucky if you do. And there's no real proof of soulmates, but I just think some people know when they've found the person they're supposed to be with. And I think you can look at two people and know they're supposed to end up together.

What I really learned from this is that everyone has a different opinion about soulmates, love and who we end up with. I also learned that people believe what brings them comfort. I guess it comforts my brother that he can end up with any number of people and still be really happy. And it comforts me to believe that there is one ultimate person out there for me that I am supposed to be with, and love isn't just something we convince ourselves to feel, because I don't think I could convince myself if it was. I think it's fascinating how our lives have shaped how we view love and relationships, and I think it's fascinating how our opinions can change after we experience various relationships ourselves. I don't think there will ever be a real way to prove whether soulmates exist or not; I just hope I'm one of those people who believes I ended up with mine.

So, what do you think? Do soulmates exist?

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.


I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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