Do Soulmates Exist?

Do Soulmates Exist?

Social construct or divine intervention?

My brother and I have argued over this question countless of times. My brother is a total nonbeliever, saying someone is your "soulmate" simply because they're the person you end up with. And I'm a total believer, saying even though not everyone ends up with one ultimate soulmate, soulmates definitely exist.

I decided I needed more opinions, so I sent out an anonymous questionnaire asking people if they believed in soulmates, why or why not, and is there an example from their life that gives them this belief? And the answers I received were both amazing and emotional.

Out of all the responses, half said they did believe in soulmates, and the rest were a mix of non-believers and those with an unconventional idea of what "soulmates" is. I think this is a difficult question just because there is no clear-cut definition of "soulmate." Is it just one person? Or, like some people suggested, can we have multiple soulmates? And is it always a romantic relationship? Or can soulmates cross over into friendships and other relationships as well?

People were really honest about how they felt and why they felt that way. A lot of people stated that they don't think soulmates exist because of the sheer amount of people in world, and the impossibility that we could meet our soulmate. One person stated:

"No, I think that is way too much pressure. It would be way too easy not to meet them, and then what? You never feel fulfilled with who you end up with? I think that while there is fate and things that are meant to be, there's not ONE single person who we are meant for."

Other people said that we have multiple soulmates that come in multiple forms, and some people said soulmates exist and we all end up with our soulmate if we are able to realize we belong together. Others said that because you end up with someone they are your "soulmate."

Surprisingly, there were people who were optimistic about soulmates. Some said the universe has a way of making sure you end up with the person you're supposed to end up with, and others say they know soulmates exist because their parents are obviously soulmates or the person they're currently with is their soulmate. And one person who submitted this opinion does a pretty good job of summing up my beliefs on the matter:

"I believe that soulmates do exist but I don't think they are the only people we can fall in love with. I think only some people find their soulmates, but others find genuine love as well."

In my opinion, I believe soulmates exist, but I don't believe everyone ends up with their soulmate. I think you're very lucky if you do. And there's no real proof of soulmates, but I just think some people know when they've found the person they're supposed to be with. And I think you can look at two people and know they're supposed to end up together.

What I really learned from this is that everyone has a different opinion about soulmates, love and who we end up with. I also learned that people believe what brings them comfort. I guess it comforts my brother that he can end up with any number of people and still be really happy. And it comforts me to believe that there is one ultimate person out there for me that I am supposed to be with, and love isn't just something we convince ourselves to feel, because I don't think I could convince myself if it was. I think it's fascinating how our lives have shaped how we view love and relationships, and I think it's fascinating how our opinions can change after we experience various relationships ourselves. I don't think there will ever be a real way to prove whether soulmates exist or not; I just hope I'm one of those people who believes I ended up with mine.

So, what do you think? Do soulmates exist?

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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