People always expect me to date some guy that is well known, well-dressed, and physically attractive automatically because that is what society perceives as the "perfect guy." Unfortunately for them, I have never been highly infatuated with the physical aspect of a person and what our relationship will look like for the public. Physical appearance does not signify the true character of a man or a woman and who I may potentially be stuck with for a long term. A lot of us have simply been "lost in the sauce" or blinded by the potential of what we could create with a person rather than paying attention to the initial signs that let us know that we have not found the one.
This is not an attack on all men who dress business casual on a regular basis and simply enjoy the style. This is simply a reminder to all that a person's physicality does not determine their true intentions. We have seen this situation too many times in movies on Lifetime and those alike, such as "The Perfect Guy" that stars Sanaa Lathan and Michael Ealy. In fact, we have seen it so much that some of the most unfavorable men and women have even confirmed to this formulated idea by "looking" the part.
Being physically attracted to someone is, of course, a major key in a relationship. However, it shouldn't be the only reason you pursue a person longer than you may need to. A person can look good and be far from the mental and social capability to hold a conversation, display humor, or even understand the moral principles of how to treat people. In "The Perfect Guy," Sanaa's character Leah Vaughn saw exactly how fast pursuing people for the wrong reason can truly put you in a dangerous and life threatening situation. Carter Duncan (Michael Ealy) turned out to be a stalker and controller that wanted to seclude Leah from all outside sources of her life and if he couldn't have Leah no one could.
This is a reminder to all to make sure we examine the interactions we have with people for what they truly are. If you don't see a spark with a person initially, don't just stay around because you know he will look good on your social media accounts, have heads turning when you are out in public, or even just makes you feel some type of arousal. What truly matters is how you think of each other outside of the looks and if the relationship can be built beyond physicality. Good people come in all shapes and forms. Besides, everybody is wearing business casual on a regular basis these days, even your local rapists, psychopaths, and child molesters.
