An Open Letter To the Person Who Wants to Be Just Friends

An Open Letter To the Person Who Wants to Be Just Friends

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I want to be friends with you. Quite honestly, your presence brightens up my mood. I still think about all the times that we laughed together. I'd love to still have that in my life, but maybe that's not what is supposed to happen.

Let me start out by saying thank you, for never judging me. Thank you for letting me open up a little bit to you, I wish you got to learn everything. Unfortunately, I just couldn't tell you everything as much as I tried to bring myself to do. Thank you for always coming over those nights when I truly needed you. Thank you for always answering my phone calls. Thank you for befriending my school family. But I guess all good things eventually come to an end, and I suppose walking away was the right thing for me to do. But, I'll always talk about how much of an incredible person you actually are. I hope someday you find someone who brightens up your world, just like you used to brighten up mine.

It stings. It hurts to walk around, knowing that you're no more than 5 feet in front of me and I just don't exist in your world anymore. It hurts to know that I can't call, knowing in five minutes you'd be at the door for me. It hurts a little less everyday, but I can't lie-it still stings a bit. I guess I'm just really not good with change.

Maybe someday I can be friends with you. Maybe I can look in your eyes again someday without seeing the blue that reminds me of the oceans that I've come across, so beautiful and yet so filled with intensity. Maybe I can look over and your smile won't make everything and everyone in the room disappear.

I know that walking away was the right thing for me to do. I know that I had to do this for me, I know that I had to straighten out everything that I needed to without dragging you into it. Walking away meant that you could move on, which I hope that someday you do and we can be in one another's lives again. I truly don't want to lose you.

But until then, I hope you know how much of an incredible person that you are. I hope that you know I appreciate the times that we were able to spend time together, I hope that you know that I appreciate you coming into my life, even if briefly. I'm truly thankful for the time that I got to understand some of you.

I hope someday that you and I can share stories and laughs again, but until then, I guess all you really need to know, is thank you.

Cover Image Credit: Laura Makabresku

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.
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The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.

Sincerely,

the loving granddaughters

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You Don't Have To Be Born Into The Family You're Meant To Be With

Water will always be thicker than blood.

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According to Merriam-Webster, the primary definition of a family is "the basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children", meaning to be a family, you must be related to others by blood. I used to run by this ideal up until high school took over my life with full force, but, as my friend told me one night in middle of our conversation, you can't get through life without friends.

You can't walk a pathway full of obstacles on your own and expect to come out of the other side unscathed, especially mentally. You can't see yourself face-to-face with your worst enemies and conquer your worst fears just by boosting your own confidence (unless you have an amazing capability of keeping your self-esteem afloat just by yourself).

In essence, life is meant for you to be born into a group of people and take on the world as if there's no one else you're meant to live with. To live is to survive with spirit, and friends are the bridge to the emotional freedom that blood-related family can't always bring.

And there's no reason to realize only if you have a large group of friends or if your family isn't as supportive as friends. It's something you come to realize with experience, and you won't know it's true until you find yourself sitting at a lunch table laughing so hard with these completely random people until you can't breathe.

It amazes me when I'm thinking late at night about how I came to meet my best friends that there was a completely randomized set of events that happened to end with two different people sharing common interests. Who would've thought that in a sea of seven billion people (that keeps changing every second), I'd be able to find myself identifying my extended family as a girl who loves reading, one who loves fashion, another who loves pull all-nighters to watch Netflix, and so many other people around me, too.

It's a diverse group of people that I identify as my family outside of home, and I know that college being just around the corner is going to change my life. But that just means my family keeps growing. You don't have to be related to someone to call them family. My friends and I openly consider ourselves to be sisters, and it's going to stay that way as long as we stay together.

One thing I can agree with in the true definition of "family", though, is that no external force can break apart a bond. And if there's something that happens to break us away from one another, we weren't meant to be family in the first place. It's a constant cycle throughout life of figuring out where you belong, but you'll eventually come to understand who you were meant to be stuck with.

There's a sense of thankfulness that comes after the realization that you've found people you can completely be yourself with. They'll forgive, they'll share, they'll love, and they'll do anything to make sure that you know that you're one of the pack.

Just a few days ago at a party, we were all glued to the TV screen while playing "Bandersnatch", and everyone seemed so invested. It was comical to see their reactions to scenes that I had already seen months before, and because the movie was an interactive game, when they made the wrong decision or when I accidentally spoiled the next scene, they would yell (out of playful spirit). It was exactly like a family, and though I wasn't the closest of friends with a few people there, it was nice to see that everyone was bonding over the movie.

It's the smallest of moments when you make the largest of discoveries, and over the past three years, I've found out that there's not much difference between family and true friendship. Friends will unconditionally love and support you just as your blood relatives might, but the only big difference that I can immediately think of is that the people in your life will show you love in different ways based on how they know how to show it.

And that's what makes you love them all the more.

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