An Open Letter To The People Who Talk Behind Your Back

An Open Letter To The People Who Talk Behind Your Back

"Everyone is going through their own battle. You shouldn't be throwing extra stones."
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Whether it's an ex, an old friend, that girl that always seems to be making fun of you, those rude guys in the back of class or anyone for that case, talking behind someone's back about them is just plain rude. Everyone is taught to be nice to each other, but clearly, some people missed that part of school. What still baffles me to this day is why others feel the need to talk about someone else behind their back? I would love to know what kind of joy or satisfaction that brings them?

In my own experience, I've realized that what people say behind your back just proves they are clearly not mature enough to say it face-to-face. If you have a problem with me or vice versa, you know I would talk to you first! It makes those who gossip very rude. Personally, I would much rather have someone talk to me about an issue they have instead of causing me to hear about it later from someone who isn't even involved in the situation. Not everyone knows exactly what everyone is going through since a majority of the population is great at hiding their personal struggles, unless you're that one person on Twitter who tweets every single aspect of their day. And being that way is perfectly fine! Everyone expresses emotions differently, just don't be that person who uses their way of expression against them.

What makes it worse is when the person who is doing the bullying or gossiping used to matter deeply to you. First off, it hurts! (Worse than the initial problem.) If someone really cared about you, no matter how badly the ending of your relationship was, they should accept that fact and be happy for whatever path you take. Not sit there and bash you to their friends just because you might be actually happy for once. I'm sorry, but if I would have known you wouldn't be mature enough to give me the respect I'm giving you, my name shouldn't even be in your mouth.

My advice is, if you have an issue with someone, talk to them and not about them! It's honestly not that hard and if it is, you should not be saying those things. Rumors, gossiping, ridicule and bullying are hurtful! So the next time you say or hear someone say something about someone else that you know would hurt you if you were in their shoes, speak up. You would want someone to do it for you, so do it first. And maybe, just maybe, our world would be less full of those who hurt and more full of those who help. "Everyone is going through their own battle. You shouldn't be throwing extra stones."

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When I was in the eighth grade I met my best friend. I did not expect to meet someone that fills all the empty spots in my heart, but she did. I did not know anyone and was new to school and she walked up and began talking to me and it was like an automatic piece to my puzzle that I had been missing for so much of my life. We just fit. We were total opposites, she is outgoing, loud, funny. As where I was shy, quiet, and I certainly could not make a whole room laugh like she did. Ever. She was everything I needed and more, she was my soulmate.

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From scheduling the same classes together, having lunch dates with one another in the union, and spending every tailgate together before going to the football game, she was there. I promise life is 100% more fun when you are doing things with them. She is the speed dial in my life, the very first person I call when I need something. I know that if it was not for her my life would be empty. Why? Because when you find someone that fits into your life perfectly, trust me you do not want to lose them or all the memories you have together. She is the Christina Yang to my Meredith Grey and if you have that person, hold on tight to them.

It did not take me long until I realized that no boy can ever love you as much as your "person" can. Boys come and go, but a best friend is forever. She picks me up when I am down. She never leaves me out. She knows when I am upset and she'll hold my hand and make me laugh until the situation is fixed. When I am struggling in life, in school, or in my faith, she reaches out and reminds me that I am perfect no matter what. I am far from perfect most of the time, but she never ever makes me feel that way. Sometimes, that is all we need in life: someone to believe in you.

So soulmate, thank you. From the bottom of my heart I thank you, for being you. I thank God for placing you in my life exactly when I needed you. You are beauty, grace, and a lover of everyone. You think you're lucky, but I know that I am blessed for you being in my life. I am a better person because of you. I step out of my comfort zone more because of you. I love people and things more fiercely because of you.

My advice to you all, find YOUR soul mate. Whether it is a boy or a girl, a soul mate is needed to get through life. I've got mine, and she is and will always be the best part of my life. If you have one, make sure you hang on tight, as they get you through this crazy thing we call life. To my soul mate, I love you.

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