Letting go isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Emotions and memories can make it so difficult to let go of a painful experience, someone toxic, or bad energy. There comes a time, however when you’re going to need to let go. It won’t be easy, especially if you are a stubborn person. Having everyone tell you to let go and move on from the pain you’ve felt will only make you want to dwell on it more. You have to want to let go, as hard as that may sound.
I know how easy it is to dwell. I know that every night when you go to sleep a movie-like stream plays through your head depicting all the painful moments you’ve felt. Just thinking of those hurtful experiences enrages you to the point of insomnia. At this point you wish you could wipe out your memory and start new, erasing every unpleasant moment from your life, creating a new memory free from negativity. Yet, as bad as you want to forget, you’re afraid to let go.
You can’t help but wonder why you can’t let go? The answer is so simple and so overlooked. You’re unable to let go because you don’t want to risk letting go of the positive memories you had with that person or at that time in your life. There is an aching pain which accompanies these negative memories, not from the unpleasant nature of them but from the remembrance of the happy times in between. Because you long to have those good times back, it hurts to think that by letting go, you may have no chance of ever restoring them. Throughout all the agonizing experiences you had at that point in your life, there was always an eye of the hurricane, a spot in between all the madness in which you actually enjoyed life. Therefore, there is the belief that in letting go of the memory of the disastrous hurricane, your relinquishing the calm experienced in its eye. But what you fail to realize is that the serenity in the eye of the hurricane can be found again after the storm. After all the debris is cleaned up and the sun begins to shine again, that is when you will be happy again.
Don’t be afraid to let go. It is our nature to block at negative experiences and memories, so stop resisting and let your body do what it was meant for. Memories are not the present. If someone once deeply respected and cared for in your eyes changes to become an emotionally hurtful person to you, the memories aren’t going to help. While they may make you feel better for a moment, they’ll ultimately make you feel worse in the end. It is important to realize that by letting go of all your anger and sadness, you are freeing up space for joy and exuberance. Once you allow yourself to break free from the restrictions of your stubborn mind and let go, you’ll finally be able to see all the good in the world as the best has yet to come to you.
