An Open Letter To My College Best Friend, Sarah

An Open Letter To My College Best Friend, Sarah

Dear Sarah, You're stuck with me now.

Dear Sarah,

You are my best friend. I know those five words are said way too much, but I want you to know you are special. I will have many friends as circumstances in my life change, but the memories I have with you will never be able to be altered. You have been with me through thick and thin, and vice versa. I cannot imagine my life without you and I honestly do not want to. I know all of these things are really cliché, but they are also true in their own individual way.

When I went to college I did not really know what to expect, but you helped me through it. I knew I had someone to always talk to or go to dining hall with. Our first year at Randolph we were inseparable. Living on the same hall gave us awesome memories. I remember all of the random dance parties in your room, having a marshmallow fight in my room, and even when we were stressed out with our Psychology test and laid down in the hall to calm down. I want you to know that I still remember that a single quick knock on the door meant you were back from class, and I honestly miss that knock.

I know that we have not been as close as last year because we live in different buildings, but I love that we made it work. I love how during the summer we would Skype and FaceTime late at night to talk and catch up for hours. Now that we are back on campus we cannot go a whole day without receiving/sending an “I miss you” text.

I know our past and present have been amazing and I honestly just want to tell you that, no matter what, I know our future will be amazing too. The way I know that is by looking at what we have accomplished together. I remember being a little freshman with you and, while we are still little, we are not freshmen anymore. We still have years to go before we are done, but we know things now. We have had over one year of college under our belt, which is supposed to help us take on the world. However, that is not the most important part to me. The most important part to me is that I have had over one year of friendship with you, which I know can help me take on whatever comes our way.

Sarah, thank you for putting up with me, you are stuck with me now. #SorryNotSorry



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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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Four Quarters Will Always Be Better Than Ten Dimes, And I'm Not Talking About Spare Change

Quality over quantity any damn day.


"You would rather have four quarters than 10 dimes, 20 nickels, or 100 pennies," is a phrase that at first glance would seem to just be about money. But it actually contains a deeper meaning that could definitely serve as good advice when it comes to the friendships you have in your life.

As an ambivert, I have always found myself happier when I surrounded myself with a large group of friends. It gives you a sense of belonging, something that is a proven innate human desire. Having large groups can be fun, but they also equally have the chance of being toxic for you. There's no point in surrounding yourself with individuals if, at the end of the day, they don't make you happy. Often times you'll hang out with people just because you crave company, but not THEIR company. There is a very important distinction.

Don't let your loneliness or your desire for more friends allow you to be consumed into toxic friendships. Because I have been there and done that. Many times. It's not a fun experience. It took me time to learn, but I have learned the valuable lesson of less being more. When you eliminate extraneous beings from your life, you have more time to focus on your more important relationships and the most crucial one of all, the one you have with yourself.

I am very blessed to say that people that I am close to in my life genuinely care for me and my happiness because this was not always the case. It takes a lot of trial and error, and also greatly impacts your mental health, but finding the right friend group for you is definitely life-changing.

Choose your friends wisely, you don't want a wallet full of useless change.

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