To my boyfriend's exes,
I went through this period at the beginning of our relationship where I would scroll through old pictures of the two of you, I'd read posts about you and I would get sad. I was so jealous of what you all had and I would think that maybe he and I would never have what you all had. He would always reassure me and say things like, "I promise they mean nothing to me anymore," "We are going to be better than that and we are going to make our own memories," and "We are going to last a lifetime." I would always listen and say I was fine even though I didn't always feel fine.
It wasn't until I got to know more about you all; you lied about him, cheated on him and one of you even tried to break us up in the beginning because you weren't over him and honestly I don't blame you for not being over him. He is wonderful, kind, smart and perfect in his own way. I don't want to give you all any ideas of trying to get him back or realizing how great he is again, that is certainly not why I'm writing this letter. I'm writing this letter to thank you.
I want to thank you for once being a friend to me because without you, I would have not known anything about him and he would have never tried to talk to me. I want to thank you for the lies about him that you had told me when we were once friends and the lies you told him because they made him stronger, they made him call me out on my little white lies when I don't want to talk about my feelings, they have made him honest, they made him show me the real him, not the guy you made him out to be.
I want to thank you for cheating on him. You have made him realize how much that hurt him and realize he would never want to hurt me the way you hurt him. You made him put up this wall that he made me earn trust and made me realize that trust is not given put freely and that I now make people earn trust.
I want to thank you for trying to break us up because yes, you may have "screenshot that could ruin lives," but he has shown them to me and I trust him with my life, our life because he came to me when things with you got tricky. I want to thank you for our extremely close and strong relationship and for showing him that he does not have to worry about me leaving him because other girls try to hit on him because yes, he is cute and yes, he could have any girl he wanted; yet he picked me. He wants me. He loves me and that is a great feeling.
So thank you, all three of you for showing him things he would not have learned without you. Thank you for leading him to me, thank you for showing him that though you were good enough at one point he did not have to settle for any of you. Thank you for breaking him so that he and I could grow together.
Sincerely,
Your exes' forever girl
