I remember it hurt, looking at her hurt.

Have you ever had your heart broken so bad that you tell yourself you never want to love again? You start telling yourself that you cannot afford to hurt like you are? You start shutting everyone out of your life because you don't want to ever feel the pain of what love has to offer, ever again. Well let me tell you something, it’s not love, love is not what’s causing you this pain, it's the person you are loving that is causing you the pain.

Sitting there, on a bed I don't know what bed it was, I forget, but sitting there staring at my best friend, crying, as she swore that she was never going to love another man, like the way she loved this one. It's like he grabbed her heart and pulled it out of her chest, I've felt hurt, I've seen hurt, but never like this.

It's in moments like this where your brain starts going in every other direction, trying to search for the words to say to an aching heart and soul. It seems that the only words people have for her is "you're only 18 years old you have your whole life in front of you", but if you have ever had a hurting heart we all knows that's the last thing you want to hear. Sitting there I wanted to give her the world, I wanted to take the world in my hands and give it to her and tell her that she deserves everything on this living breathing planet. My heart hurt watching her hurt, she was emotionally drained, she needed something but I didn't know just what, so the only thing I had the power to do was hold her, and pray. I prayed that God would show her that there’s someone out there who can give her the world, who will make her feel like she's the only person on the earth, I prayed that God would show her love and give her strength. I prayed not for him to take this person out of her life but to find someone to love her enough that she had no choice but to let go.

Don't get me wrong, she is beautiful, she has the lightest of all blue eyes I've ever seen, a heart that loves so strong, her smile lights up so many people’s lives, it's moments like this where I wonder if she knows how many people would just kill for her to smile at them, because that's how special she is.

I began to explain that it wasn't love that was making her hurt, it was nothing close to love. I stopped to read her a bible verse before I went on.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

"4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

Love doesn't hurt, it's the person you are loving that's causing you pain. I know how it feels to physically hurt so badly and we seem so often to blame that pain and hurt on the one thing keeping us all grounded. In a world full of hate and hurt, love is the only thing that stands strong, it outlives all of us.

There is a fine line between what you want and what you deserve. I needed to explain to her this is not what she deserved she deserved so much more, she deserved someone who would make her morning coffee, who would read her favorite books to her, who would care for her not just when she's sick, but all the time. She deserved this but still somehow wanted the person who was breaking her heart. I could relate, though, I could relate to the pain she was feeling I know how hard it is to let go of something you held close to you for so long, someone who tells you they love you one day, but the next shows you something completely different. You just see hoping that the person you love all day every day will one day show you the love that you have for them, so you just keep waiting around instead of giving someone else the chance.

I write this for my best friend and for all the other girls struggling out there, know that you are so loved, even if it’s not by the person you want to love you, I promise you one day you will find that love. Love yourself enough to let go of something that is only poison to your life. Give yourself the chance to heal, because I promise you're not the only person hurting, the people watching you hurt are suffering too. Give yourself time to learn to love again, it will all be worthwhile in the end.

Remember this, love outlives us all, don't ever give up on love, because it will never give up on you.