It's okay, you are scared. You are so scared that he will walk out just like everyone else did. Leave you in the dark and not tell you what is going on. Lead you on. Or maybe he will just call you for a random hookup and then leave again. But whatever the reason, please let me tell you, it is okay.

Being scared does not make you any less of a woman. Don’t hate yourself for this; There are more people that are also living out this situation. By not letting someone into your life you think you are keeping yourself safe, but this may also be hurting more than helping. You want to so desperately get away from the awkward small talk and one worded text. You want to hear the words 'I like you' come out of his mouth. You think that in some way this will heal your broken heart.

I can't tell you that being in love will fix everything, I have never been there. But I know that being scared to let someone into your life will turn you away from many friendships. But I understand, because I am scared to commit too.

You gave everything to someone just to have it repeatedly thrown back into your face. Maybe he cheated, lied, or maybe he was just plain indecisive about what he wanted in a relationship: either way, he mistreated you. He twisted and turned your thoughts and feelings anyway that he could.

It has changed you. But that is okay.

The only problem with girls like us is, our walls built to keep the bad out are also keeping out the good too. No one will ever be able to prove to you that they deserve a chance if they never get the opportunity and that can be so unfair to people.

I am here to tell you, things will get better. It may not be today or tomorrow, but it will eventually be better. I am not going to sit here and tell you how awful of a person you are because you are not an awful person.

I, myself, am too scared to commit to someone. I know how it feels to have a panic attack anytime you go out with a guy because you know that it can not go any further because you are hurting.

I know what it's like to over analyze everything that a guy says or does.

I know how stressful it can be to be hurting people.

And I don't know what else to say other than I'm sorry. I'm sorry for the sadness that paralyzes you; the sadness that makes you feel like you're pushing yourself forward just to go through the motions.

I am sorry for the pain that stings you and makes you feel like you are pouring salt right onto your open wounds. I am sorry for the doubt that plagues you; the doubt that makes you feel like love is a risk that's no longer worth taking.

I know what it is like to feel like it is your fault, but I am here to tell you, it isn't.

'Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.' Romans 12:9