An Open Letter To The Best Friend I Shut Out
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An Open Letter To The Best Friend I Shut Out

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An Open Letter To The Best Friend I Shut Out
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Dear Ex-Best Friend,

Hi. I'm not really sure where to begin with this, but I have a few things that I need to say to you, and a few things to get off my chest.

Let me start by saying this: I don't hate you. I never have and never will. I will say, though, that I'm still hurt. I'm hurt by the actions you took toward me and I'm hurt by the ones you didn't. I'm hurt by all the times you didn't pay attention to me because what you were doing at that moment or the latest Tinder match you were texting was more important than what I had to say. I'm hurt that you had the nerve to tell me that I didn't have enough time to spend with you, but every time your friend from out of town came in, I was almost completely ignored for a week or a few days. I'm hurt that you kept talking to a guy who openly insulted me to you and that you never even told him anything about it. You never told him that you made me Snapchat him to see if he would flirt with me because you were psycho and wanted to test the loyalty of a guy who you met on Tinder and who you weren't even dating. I'm hurt that when we went to my boyfriend's birthday party and I told you that we had to leave by a certain time, so we couldn't drink, you got plastered anyway and refused to let me drive your car home. I'm hurt that after my traumatic experience with someone that I will never trust again, you remained friends with that person and told me I was overreacting about being sent to the hospital. I'm hurt that every time I said I didn't feel like going out or said that I couldn't, you berated me or told me to grow up because I let my parents tell me what to do when I was 18 and 19 years old. I'm hurt because you constantly made jabs at me and told me I was making a huge deal out of "little" things when you knew those things were important to me. Most of all, I'm hurt that as my "best friend," you couldn't see that all that time you were hurting me and that you didn't understand why I had to remove you from my life. You just didn't get it.

What I want you to know is that shutting you out was the hardest decision I've ever had to make. Ending our friendship made me so sad, and what made it worse was that you couldn't seem to grasp my reasoning for it. You still don't get it, and I'm not sure if you ever will. That kills me inside. I just want you to know that I never wanted this to happen. I don't think I'm "too good" for you and I'm not trying to change who you are. All I want is for you to understand why I had to end things the way I did, because maybe then things can change, but until then, I have to keep my distance. Please don't hate me.

-Your Ex-Best Friend.

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