Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me.

Fool me three times... why are we still friends?

In case you didn’t already know, you are important. Something I constantly struggle with is removing myself from toxic friendships. I’ve noticed that I don’t have to be friends with someone who doesn’t treat me like a person and you don’t always have to be friends with every person you meet.

It’s hard to recognize a toxic friendship when you first start out. Usually you don’t even see the damage of a friendship until it’s already over. And by that time, you’re wondering why you wasted seven months on a friendship that was never even worth it. Unfortunately, it’s not easy to end friendships. You always have to deal with having to confront them to tell them that there’s a problem and that you want to go your separate ways. I mean let’s face it, you did start being their friend for a reason. I’ve learned that in some friendships there is more bad then good. So why would you want to keep that negativity in your life when you only get a little positivity out of it?

Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth even if they don’t. (My new life motto since I started college)

Having a friend that really isn’t truly your friend is miserable. They are negative, they don’t support you in any way, and they always bring down your mood. Getting rid of my bad friends was probably one of the most stressful and scariest things I’ve had to do. But not long after, I could not be happier with my best friends now and not having any negativity in my life.

To the friend that wasn’t a friend:

Thank you. You made me realize that there are better friendships out there and that negativity doesn’t have to be apart of my everyday life. One of my favorite traits about myself is my smile, but while being friends with you, I often found myself frowning. Thank you for never asking how I was or how my day went because I know that these questions should only be asked by people who actually care. Thank you for leaving me in times of need and never going out of your way. It showed me that sacrifice and flexibility are key features of a true friend. Thank you for our memories, even though I have some spoiled ones, I know that we were friends for a reason and not all my time was wasted.

Thank you for letting our friendship end.