Cheating, okay wait… before I get started let me clarify that I am talking about cheating in a relationship, not in school, sports, etc. What is really considered cheating in a relationship? To some it could be just thought of simply deleting messages and hiding things from a significant other, but others could go along the lines of saying cheating is being unfaithful in a physical or emotional state. To me, cheating is anything that someone feels guilty about. If there is guilt, there is something wrong happening. But one thing is certain about cheating… cheating is a CHOICE, it is NOT an accident.

Okay, just to make things clear, I have never been able to completely wrap my head around the concept of cheating. I do not understand how an individual can lie and hide things from a person they claim to care about immensely. I have watched my friends deal with being cheated on and I myself have experienced it and I don’t know why one would put someone through that much pain.

So without further ado, Cheaters: This one is for you.

I guess what I first have to say is… not everything you have done is awful. Wait, don’t get too excited, you’re only a good guy in this situation because your terrible actions taught a victim a valuable lesson. In life, there are many important lessons we all must go through and I personally believe cheating is something that strengthens us individually. No, not everyone gets to experience the immature and selfish behavior and choices of a cheater, but those who experience it will take a valuable lesson out of it. Not only do you (the cheater) cause pain but you are also the instigator of trust issues, chaos and many other negative things. Also, because of your selfish actions, the victim questions their self-worth when in reality you are the one who needs to be questioning your own self-worth. You allow a loyal person to fight with themselves over why they weren’t good enough while their life continues spiraling out of control.

…until, they learn. Of course some time will be spent thinking of all your lies and promises and their self-esteem will probably drop significantly. And yeah, they’ll think of all the time you took from them, all the memories that are now ruined and what possibly could have happened if you would not have been so selfish. BUT, eventually the pain will pass and it will be discovered that it was not their fault that you chose to be a heartless cheater. As time passes and they discover that they were the real victim and they will not wish to have others feel sorry for them. They will feel sorrow for you because of what you lost… and by the way, that is your own fault.

You lost not only a loyal and amazing person, but also someone who would give you their last breath. Someone who would put your wants above theirs. And most of all, you lost someone who could love you more than you will ever know… all because of a selfish choice.

In the end, YOU, you disgusting cheater, have taught them an endless amount of lessons. You showed them manipulative behaviors and showed them the type of people to avoid. In the end, they will turn their life into nothing but happiness but for the rest of time, you will have this heavy weight on your shoulders. Don’t get me wrong, it will take time for them to find happiness but when they do and they are ready, they will find someone who views them as priceless and someone who will show them off. This person will show them what a real relationship is. Nothing is wrong with the victim and your disgusting soul cannot take away their happiness. Along with becoming happy, they will learn that your lies are not their fault, they’ll learn that not everyone is honest all the time which will cause them to be grateful for those who are honest. BUT, in my opinion… the most important lesson learned is that “not everyone you lose is a loss.” Anyone who would hurt someone that badly is nothing short of poison and no one deserves poison when they are the victim.

So thank you for teaching us victims a valuable lesson and congratulations on choosing trash over treasure.

P.S. If you aren’t happy in your future relationships please LEAVE instead of cheating.