To All The Fake Friends

To All The Fake Friends

To all the fake friends in my life, I promise it is your loss.

Dear fake friends,

This is not a letter about drama. I'm not calling anyone out or trying to make anyone feel bad. This is one of those, "if the shoe fits" kind of things, which means I'll let you decide if this is talking about you.

Throughout my almost 20 years, I've experienced quite a few fake friends. From being my friend for their own personal gain, using me, and the one I cannot stand the most, talking bad about me behind my back.

Though none of you truly intended to hurt me, or some of you may have, I forgive you all. I just want you to know that your pettiness, drama and hurtful treatment has made me realize what a true friend is, and value those friends more. Your actions have made me a stronger person, in all aspects of life.

However, I have some advice for you. First off, talking bad about someone behind their back, is like digging a hole you will never be able to get out of. I've learned that if you truly have a problem with someone or something they do, consult with them. Believe me, they will always find out about this little problem, and it will sound a whole lot better coming from you, rather than someone else. Also, using someone, or being their friend for your own personal benefit, is probably the most hurtful thing you can do. Being a true friend is caring about the actual person you're friends with, not getting something in return.

Most people you do this to are going to want revenge, to hurt you back and never speak to you again. Sure, I felt the need to do all these things when I initially found out what kind of person you are, but then I would be just like you. Just remember when you are treating everyone like this and being fake, you may need a true friend one day. It's so easy to be petty, full of drama and hurtful. Be a little different, it will make a lot of difference in the people you have in your life.

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.

Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.

Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

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A Thank You Letter To My Two Best Friends

Even when I don't always show it.


Dear Sophia and Camryn,

I think all I have to say to sum up our friendship is to refer to the name of our group message, "We don't need therapy, we have eachother~". For anyone who knows us, that statement couldn't be more true. But in all seriousness, thank you gals for sticking by me through some of the best and worst of times. I definitely wouldn't be who I am without the two of you.

I will forever be grateful for the day that Sophie brought Camryn to my house because as soon as we started writing on my old white board I knew we'd be forever kinds of friends. We all laughed at the same things, were bothered by the same things and just seemed to clique. Fast forward to now, even though it feels as though I am so far away from you guys you still make me feel so loved and important.

Thank you for listening to me complain about the stupid things in life like getting below an A on a paper or when I don't want to get out of bed in the morning or my coffee doesn't taste good. With that, thank you for holding my secrets close and always being able to genuinely listen and help me with whatever is going on in my life. You've become the human version of my diary and I can't thank you enough for always being willing to listen.

Thank you for always being up for Panera dates, coffee dates, ice cream dates and random restaurant adventures. I guess with that comes tolerating both my indecisiveness and pickiness, so thank you for coming with me to Panera even if it is the fourth night that week and for always making sure the restaurant has kids grilled cheese on the menu.

Thank you for teaching me to live a little. I'm always the tightly wound friend with a million things on her plate full of stress and whenever I am with you two I can't seem to focus on anything else but having a good time. Whether it is making our own fun in Camryn's room, late night drives to the beach, random trips to a psychic, or nights out with our friends... with you guys it is truly never a dull moment. You force me to put myself out there and bring me out when all I wanna do is sit in bed and I appreciate that because those nights I feel like doing nothing always turn out to be the best ones even if it just consists of us watching movies together.

Thank you for having my back, even when I'm not around to witness it. You have defended me to my brother, to my parents, to mean girls, to rude boys and to anyone who has hurt me or intended to and for that I am so grateful. You guys stick up for me even when I refuse to stick up for myself and I am so lucky to have two people who are willing to look out for me the way that you guys do.

Thank you for always supporting me, even when you don't agree with what I'm doing. You guys have been around for a lot: my summer in New York, quitting dance, going to college and so much in between and no matter what decisions I make you've always cheered me on and taught me to believe in myself and to embrace my failures. Thank you for never letting me feel alone in anything.

And a few miscellaneous things...Thank you for sitting next to me at every hockey game, no matter how far away they were. Thank you for tolerating my nerdiness and math jokes, I recognize you don't care or understand what I'm talking about have the time. Thank you for always helping me with hair, make-up and outfits cause everyone knows I cannot get myself ready if my life depended on it. Thank you for showing me the best music and movies because apparently I'm horrible in doing that myself. Thank you for pushing me out of my comfort zone. Thank you for teaching me the value of spontaneity and the importance of self confidence. Thank you for always being willing to drive around screaming "All Too Well" by Taylor Swift with me.

Most of all thank you for being my best friends... how does that song go? Something about being hard to love? Yeah you know the one. I know I'm not always the best and make it difficult but thank you for always putting up with me and for doing everything to make sure I'm happy. There aren't any other people I would rather call my best friends.

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