To All The Fake Friends

To All The Fake Friends

To all the fake friends in my life, I promise it is your loss.
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Dear fake friends,

This is not a letter about drama. I'm not calling anyone out or trying to make anyone feel bad. This is one of those, "if the shoe fits" kind of things, which means I'll let you decide if this is talking about you.

Throughout my almost 20 years, I've experienced quite a few fake friends. From being my friend for their own personal gain, using me, and the one I cannot stand the most, talking bad about me behind my back.

Though none of you truly intended to hurt me, or some of you may have, I forgive you all. I just want you to know that your pettiness, drama and hurtful treatment has made me realize what a true friend is, and value those friends more. Your actions have made me a stronger person, in all aspects of life.

However, I have some advice for you. First off, talking bad about someone behind their back, is like digging a hole you will never be able to get out of. I've learned that if you truly have a problem with someone or something they do, consult with them. Believe me, they will always find out about this little problem, and it will sound a whole lot better coming from you, rather than someone else. Also, using someone, or being their friend for your own personal benefit, is probably the most hurtful thing you can do. Being a true friend is caring about the actual person you're friends with, not getting something in return.

Most people you do this to are going to want revenge, to hurt you back and never speak to you again. Sure, I felt the need to do all these things when I initially found out what kind of person you are, but then I would be just like you. Just remember when you are treating everyone like this and being fake, you may need a true friend one day. It's so easy to be petty, full of drama and hurtful. Be a little different, it will make a lot of difference in the people you have in your life.

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To The Best Friend Who Ghosted Me For Her S.O.

She picked spending almost every day with him over helping me through rough times and trying to save our dying friendship.
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Ghosting.

According to dictonary.com, the definition of ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

Ghosting is something that this generation is all too familiar with. It is something that makes me sick to my stomach, and I still cannot figure how all these people just “ghost” others who sincerely care about them.

I have had my fair share of guys or may I say, boys, ghost me.

It was rough but I have gotten through it, no big deal. Boys are boys, there are plenty more out there. Random friends along the way have ghosted me, it’s still just whatever to me.

This newly discovered ghosting that welcomed itself into my life is one that I don’t think I will ever be able to just simply be “whatever” about.

My best friend ghosted me. You might say that is crazy or ask me why.

This wasn't the typical ghosting though, I kind of knew what was going on. It all came down to one simple thing, her new significant other.

Yes, a new boy entered her life, so she exited my life.

I watched it happen right in front of my face, but I had no idea what I was in for.

It didn’t happen all at once. Our friendship went from seeing each other every day to only seeing each other once a week, if that. It went from telling each other everything to her purposely hiding things from me and blowing me off. I was hurt, but I never thought it would lead to where our friendship is at now. Long story short, we aren't friends.

I confronted her about it because I was not okay with getting ghosted by my best friend. She just ran and continued to run from it, and on top of that lie to me.

What hurts the most is that after YEARS of friendship, after going through hell and back with her, she chooses a guy over me. She picked spending almost every day with him over helping me through rough times and trying to save our dying friendship.

It hurts when a guy ghosts you, but it truly breaks your heart when your best friend ghosts you.

All I have to say to her is, I hope that he makes you happy and I hope that you two have a wonderful time together. Hopefully, he is a good one because he has big shoes to fill becoming your boyfriend and now your best friend.

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To My Distant Friend, We Don't Always Talk But I'm Here For You

I know we haven't spoken in a while, but you're still my best friend.
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Dear Distant Friend,

I wanted to start off by saying thank you.

When I started college I thought I'd have so much time for my friends from back home that went to other universities but, I don't have as much time as I thought — classes and studying are overwhelming and I forget to check in or say hi like I used to. The daily conversations turn to weekly talks and before I know it it's been months since we've spoken.

I know we haven't talked in weeks or months, but wanted to tell you how much I love and appreciate you. We can pick up like no time passed and everything between us is the same and I am so thankful for that.

I'm constantly put on blast for not texting back or snapchatting back, but I promise I could never truly forget about my friends.

Having friends I know I can count on no matter what happens and no matter how much time has passed really keeps me sane.

Sometimes I am distant and sometimes I'll forget to tell you good luck on your math test or forget to ask how your day was, but you are always in the back of my mind and always on my heart.

Life gets overwhelming sometimes and it is totally understandable to not remember your phone is nearby and to make conversation, but I promise it means so much to hear from my friends a simple "Hey girl! Miss you! Hope you're doing well!"

We all have new friends and new teammates at college but don't forget about those friends you made in middle school and high school. They're just as important, if not more.

So again I say it, thanks for dealing with me popping in and out. Thanks for handling me when I go missing and when I forget to say that you're important to me.

Sincerely,

I'm Sorry I Forgot To Text You Back... Again

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