Let me just say, I can sum up about every boy I’ve met in the past two years with two words: mediocre and rude. I don’t know about the rest of you, but this hunt for my future husband isn’t going so hot.
As I left the theater after seeing "Me Before You" (for the third time, I might add) it got me thinking: when did I start expecting less from my relationships? When did I start thinking it was normal for a boy to only ask me to hang out at night when his parents wouldn’t be home?
Now, I’m not saying I need a guy to leave me thousands of dollars to begin a new life after his death, but I would be completely flustered and blown away if a male asked to hang out during the daylight hours, and that just is not the way things ought to be. Stay woke, ladies. Respect yourself more than accepting a boy who puts in only a fraction of the effort you do. Decide you deserve better than that late night text. It might feel good in the moment, but the next day, when you are feeling lonely wondering if he’ll call, does it feel good then? When I think about my future husband and the things I want to receive from that relationship, I know I want more than the occasional text asking me to come over and watch Netflix. We all know where that road leads, and it’s not a road that’s will get you down the aisle.
I crave all the trappings of romance: I picture myself with a person who feels like coming home, someone who can be my best friend. For me, home isn’t necessarily a place--it’s a feeling of complete peace and contentment. I just believe with everything in me that that’s the way your partner should feel to you. I grew up around the perfect couple, who just so happen to double as my parents. They had their ups and downs, but I know that the relationship that they have with one another is one I’m willing to wait and fight for. I think that, at times, there are a lot of compromises that have to be made in life. I think that sometimes, life calls for you to settle, whether that be turning down a dream job or maybe not getting accepted to your college of choice, but I don’t think that relationships are a time you should have to settle. I am not willing to fight for a boy who’s only interested in getting one thing. I’m not just looking for something temporary, I’m not just looking for “no strings attached."
Don’t let boys make the call. You make the call. Matt Healy speaks to my soul--“Life is too short to drink bad coffee and cry over boys who don’t care.” I know I’m looking for absolutely everything this life has to offer, and I want someone who can maneuver that path with me. I’m just not interested in wasting my time anymore.
