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No, I Am Not Here For You

Dear Douchebag, I honestly do not want to impress you.

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No, I Am Not Here For You
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Hello there ... yeah, I know you see me just like how you know I see you. You're pretty attractive to me. My type definitely. And, let's be honest, you know that I like you, you know you are good looking, and you know you have impressed me. However, this is where you become a serious jerk.

See, even though we have been eyeing each other, on opposite sides of the room, throughout the night, you are still talking with your friends. You are sure that I'm going to wait for you throughout the party. You might dance with a couple girls to see if I am looking, or you may just play hard to get thinking I am going to chase. But then you look up to see if I am still head over heels (that's what you already think I am anyway) for you.

You see I am dancing with my friends, dancing with another guy, or just dancing by myself. You are confused. Some girls you have met just go to the parties to try and get a guy, and you thought that I would be smitten. Cause isn't that what girls are supposed to be?

I did not come here for you.

In fact, most of the girls I have had the privilege of meeting at parties did not come here for you either. They came here for a girls night. They came here for a night of no expectations. They want to dance because they had a rough week of classes, they just want to let loose, or they just want to feel good. However, they do not need someone to make them feel good. I do not need someone making me feel hot either.

I do not need or want to impress you.

I put on this outfit cause I thought it was cute. I put on this makeup cause my face already looks bomb but wanted some blush and glitter to get it going. I made an effort because I wanted to check myself out in the mirror and say, "Hot damn, I am so good looking!" I do not need you to say it to me. I already know.

I am here to dance my stress away, have some quality time with my friends, and make good memories, not memories of my chasing after you like a puppy. I know a lost cause when I see one. Don't get me wrong, I think you're cute, but I am not about put in effort for someone who will not put effort in trying to get me either.

I will dance with you if you aren't about mind games and just having a good time. I may even talk to you. We may even hit it off, and a future may begin. But don't think that trying to find a boyfriend is the only reason I go out. There is so much more to me, to women if fact, and you only thinking we want to find a man is a bit disrespectful. We do not think that every guy at a party wants a girlfriend.

I know that you didn't come here for me because if you did, I would be a bit freaked out to be honest.

I did not come here to find you. I am here for the party. I am here for the fun. I am here for it all.

I am here for me.

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