Choose Your Friends Wisely, But Always Put Yourself First

Choose Your Friends Wisely, But Always Put Yourself First

You need to make sure that you're your number one priority because I promise you no one will put you first.


If you're a person who wears their heart on their sleeves, join the club. It's extremely challenging to be someone who cares so deeply about everyone else in their lives because you'll tend to always put everyone else above yourself.

Your friend has a problem with their boyfriend or ex boyfriend for the 40th time in the past week, you drop everything to help them. It doesn't matter how small or big the situation is, you can't help but always drop everything in your life to be there for others. Why? You care way more than the normal person, which honestly is the worst thing ever.

I get it, you can't stop caring about the people you love. No matter what they do to you or how many times you say you're done with them, you can't help but always be there for them.

It absolutely sucks.

Why? You can't pick real friends if your life depended on it. If you're being honest with yourself, you probably only have a solid 4 friends out of the 100 or more contacts in your phone that actually care about your wellbeing.

You pick friends who use you. People who you let walk over you in fear of getting rejected or losing friends.

You're scared. You don't want to feel rejected or lose people because sadly that's all you've ever known. Forget losing your significant other, losing a friend sometimes can hurt even more.

You have all the right to be scared, it's completely normal. It's not okay to let yourself be treated badly by others just to have "friends" though. If you're constantly unhappy and upset about your friends, maybe they just aren't really your friends at the end of the day.

Friends are the people that when you really need them, they're there for you. No matter what, they will always be there for you.

Thank you to the friends that I can call at whatever time and they'll always be there for me. Thank you to the people who truly care for my well-being. We really tend to take for granted the people who are really there for us and spend more time with the people who won't stay for the long term. Let's take a minute to truly appreciate the people who stick through it all and love us endlessly.

This is a reminder to chose your friends wisely. It's nice to have those friends that you can joke and have good times with, but if they can't be there for you when you need them then they're not worth it.

Popular Right Now

To My Best Friend Who Doesn’t Know How Strong She Is

Always better together.

To the one I know I will always have by my side,

First off, thank you. Thanks for dealing with all my shit: my mess, drama, tears, and weirdness. There are so many reasons why you are my best friend; you are funny, amazing, kind and unbelievably supportive. I am beyond lucky to have someone that gets me and has been there with me through the best of times and the worst of times.

You are strong.

Life is difficult; I think we have both realized that by now. Whether you believe me or not you are kicking everything being thrown at you in the ass. You have been through everything and more and have always come out of it a stronger, and better person. You are never alone and you know that; we have been there for each other for years and that will never end.

You are special.

I have never met anyone with a bigger heart than you; you sympathize with anyone that comes to you for advice. You take things to heart and look at the world in a unique and beautiful way. You appreciate the little things in life, watching Dance movies with your mom, a late night snack at Taco Bell, driving with the top down and dancing like no one is watching.

You are beautiful.

You are way more beautiful than you think. You've got softness to you that is calming, a smile that is contagious, and a gorgeous girl with so much to offer. You are filled with love and compassion, an amazing writer, dancer and overall an amazing and beautiful person.

You can get through anything.

I know you are going through a hard time right now, but look at how far you've come. You have gone through way worse and you will get through this just like you have in the past. You will become even more powerful than you already are. You are experienced and that's part of what makes me love you so much. We have gone through a lot together and we know that whatever life throws at us we can handle it.

I am always here.

Your hardship is my hardship, but keep your head up high just like I know you can. You have so much love in your life, from your family, your friends and me. I love you, I have never had a friend like you and I am so grateful every day because of it. You are going to get through this. You are going to get through it because you are, powerful, you are beautiful and you are strong.

~Written with love and appreciation for the most amazing friend I could ever ask for~

Cover Image Credit: Sarah Richman

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

How To Cope With A Best Friend Breakup

Breaking up with a boyfriend is one thing, but breaking up with your best friend is a whole new level of heartbreak.


We all know breakups can be tough, but when that breakup happens to be between you and your best friend, things reach a new level of heartbreak. I met my best friend junior year of high school after our Spanish teacher randomly assigned us to be partners; we struggled so much in that class but in the end, we truly became inseparable. When senior year rolled around we were still close as ever; people would often joke that we were sisters because we looked and acted so much alike. We would go on little dates together, go to parties together, and were always the first person we called when something "major happened."

When my best friend's boyfriend of four years cheated on her while we were spring breaking in Europe, it became my duty to make her feel better; I would randomly drop off flowers and little notes to her house, spend countless hours just listening to her cry and vent, and even stopped talking to people associated with her boyfriend so as to show my "support." All of these things were no big deal to me considering I loved this girl like a sister; whatever she needed I was there to give that to her.

Things soon took a sharp turn when we entered not only the same college but the same sorority. While I was struggling with the social aspect of FSU, my best friend soon found new best friends. When I started having major issues with my boyfriend, I would automatically text/call my best friend as she did with me, but instead of support, I got the sense that she was passive and uninterested. Our little dates and goofy inside jokes disappeared and reappeared between her and her new friends, and my comfortableness around her soon turned into insecurity.

Coming to terms with the fact that the girl I knew everything about is now basically a stranger was a hard one to overcome; I didn't want to accept the fact that my best friend decided it was time to find new ones. It's heartbreaking knowing that the special things you shared with a person are now being shared with others, and it's hard to accept the fact that you aren't wanted or needed by the one person you thought would be by your side forever.

Since school has ended I think I have accepted the fact that we're no longer what we used to be. Of course, it still stings when I see social media posts with her new, college friends, but I just have to remind myself that this is part of life and I just have to move on. I will forever cherish the memories I made with her, but it's time to acknowledge that they were made with someone in my past, not with someone in my present.

Related Content

Facebook Comments