Always the bridesmaid never the bride has been a constant thought in my head. The subject of boys is such a hard topic to approach for many reasons. There has always been that one boy that has hurt you whether it be in the third grade or when you're 24 years old. There are so many different ways in which they could have hurt you as well.

I know at times I constantly feel boy crazy or so preoccupied with boys that I can't focus on anything else. Other times I could care less. I've continuously learned this year that boys come and go though. They at times will know exactly what to say in order to get you to stay just a little longer. Other times they will seem as though they could care less and leave you hanging. I wait for days to receive a text that never comes, I wait for the apology that I believe I deserve which never comes, but worst of all at times I only can seem to blame myself for them leaving.

That's an issue I believe every girl has gone through. They believe that they did something wrong to make someone not love them. That is anything but true though. There is nothing you did wrong, they just could not seem to handle the perfect person that you are. It's also the worst when you see the guy go and pick someone else; whether you know the other girl or not it hurts terribly. You spend hours comparing yourself to someone that you will never be. You think of so many ways in which you could change yourself. However, changing yourself will not bring them back. Getting so hung up on everything you believe you could have changed or everything you did "wrong" only hurts yourself more.

Trust me, I have been there so many times, questioning what I did wrong and what she has that I don't. But I am slowly learning that there is nothing that I did wrong and she may have qualities that I don't have, but the qualities that I have make me special. And the most important thing I have realized is one day someone will like me for me. I can't give up on that though because the moment I give up on that then that will be the moment I let myself fall into the hands of the wrong boy. It may take a few of the wrong boys to finally find the right one, and call me a hopeless romantic but I believe that is worth it.

The final and quite possibly most important piece of information is no matter who the boy is, remember that your friends were there for you long before the boy. They will be the one's there to pick up the pieces if the boy leaves, they will be the ones to listen to you when he makes a mistake, and they will just always be there regardless. Do not push them to the side and forget about them because your friends are what you need. Boys come and go, but friends always stay.

Boys aren't the end all, be all, I promise. Sometimes I struggle with understanding that, but I am slowly learning. We all have to learn to put ourselves first and love ourselves before we can love anyone else.