For a second I thought I had you.
For a long time now, I have always been that person that never likes to let go of a guy after a relationship. No matter if it was my fault or his, I always thought maybe if I tried hard enough and hold on, he will always stay there. Obviously, that never worked out the best way. By not letting go, this had showed me that I was lowering my self-esteem and dignity.
Dignity is the state of being worthy of who you are and having self-respect for yourself. To be real, I did not not have dignity in my relationships.
I was showing the guy that I was dependent and chasing after him, and let me tell you chasing after a guy is never attractive. Not letting go and reasoning with your ex on why he should keep you is another word for begging. Sometimes we don’t realize but we beg. We focus on what our feelings want instead of what our hearts need. We show a guy that we can’t live without him.
Yes we can. We can live without a guy.
We get swept up and get so consumed on how guys want to think about us. We want them to have the same exact feelings as we do about them. Sometimes we don't let go, because we are afraid of rejection. If we keep holding on, we will get that temporary satisfaction that we don't need right now. We are sometimes just emotionally unavailable. Us girls and even guys tend to not get real with ourselves because we don't want to deal with the painful heartbreak. What I have learned through my past relationships is that we are creators of our pain and don't want to admit that we are letting go of something that never existed in the first place. We daydream about these "relationships" that we want, when in reality it was never the case at all. We have to get out of our world and face reality. You have to get real and be honest with yourself.
Stop creating pain for yourself, Stop chasing, Stop calling and texting a guy. It is not worth it. You are far more valuable than that.
"You are the master orchestrator of your own soap opera."
A couple of days ago I was listening to the song by Bon Iver “I can’t make you love me”. We can not make someone love us or have the same feelings if they do not. Simple as that. What I am trying to say with all of is, let go because he was never yours to begin with. If he leave, he leaves. Your life will go on. You can not lose what you never had and you definitely can't keep holding on to something that does not want to stay. Let go and get over it. I promise you will find strength in letting go.
Stop wasting your time and energy on guys that do not want you and let go.
