Living with your besties sounds great, right? It will be like a sleep over all the time. You always have your partner(s) in crime by your side, you always have someone who can paint your right hand nails, and you don’t have to watch scary movies by yourself.
My friends are great. I just moved into an apartment with three of my closest friends in college. We literally all have the same major and have every single class together. Three of us even work at the same place on campus.
We are all SO close. Or so I thought.
Having every class together is nice because we can help each other with homework and projects, there is always someone in the other room who can clear up the crazy and confusing syllabus that our professors handed out, and if you’re late for class, you will never be late alone.
Living with your best friends is great, until you have to decide who is cooking dinner and who is cleaning up. Or if two or three of you go out, someone always feels like they are getting left out.
And how do you tell your friend that you don’t really like her arrogant and loud boyfriend being over here all the time?
How do you tell your friend that you need some alone time or just don’t want to hang out?
How do you tell your friend that you don’t like her other friends?
How do you tell your friends that you don’t want to drink with them every night?
It’s hard. These conversations feel like they will be the end of the world because you don’t want conflict in the apartment for the rest of the year.
ADVICE: Have the conversations anyways.
When something comes up that makes you feel uncomfortable the first time, say what you feel. Don’t brush it off with an “it’s okay” and hold it in.
This is YOUR apartment too, so if something makes you feel uncomfortable it needs to be said. If you hold it in, it will ruin your friendship because you will soon explode and probably say stuff you don’t even mean.
Even though it seems like an impossible conversation, say it anyways.
After all, they are your best friends, the ones that should understand you the most.
