The other day, I was sitting in class with my friends telling them I've been thinking about cutting my hair. We were looking through pictures and every time I'd see a hairstyle I thought was cute, I'd say, "Well, she's cute so it works."
My friend responded by saying, "and you're not?" This got me thinking. Why did I think I wasn't cute simply because this girl in the picture was? I then realized that I do this constantly. I'll see a girl who has a really cute outfit on or an adorable hairstyle and I'll automatically feel as though I'm not also cute because I dress differently. I'm sure that I'm not the only one who does this, but why do we do it?
Personally, I've always had problems with valuing myself. For example, whenever I see someone with perfect makeup, I beat myself up for not putting more effort into my physical appearance. I have to remind myself that I'm beautiful without makeup. Its unhealthy for us to cut down our own worth and self-value because we admire someone else.
I'm all about the "love yourself" movement, but I think we also need to talk about loving yourself just as much as you love admiring other people. We all need to be able to appreciate another person's beauty without taking away from our own. This goes back to one of the first things we were ever taught. Everyone is different. Reminding yourself of that every time you feel that you're not cute enough will work wonders for your ego.
No matter how many girls you see that have cute outfits on or can pull off that haircut you want so badly, you're still beautiful, and cute, and perfect. It's totally possible to appreciate another person's appearance while valuing your own!
