It's always the same story.
They weren't looking for a relationship; it just happened. It was good for the first four weeks, but after the third month, everything was different. She falls deeper in love every day as he becomes distant.
The "I love yous" become "Ily2," but she ignores the change. As long as he's still by her side she'll be okay. His voice bangs through her ear causing a vibration her ears aren't prepared for. The time they spend together isn't always pleasant, but, at least, it's time spent.
His visits to her house used to last hours, not minutes. She's starting to get worried, but she doesn't let him know. He continues to ignore her calls and she can't seem to figure out why. Is it because she's too boring? Or maybe it's because she's too clingy?
All these scenarios begin swirling in her head driving her into a deep depression. He threatens to hit her, but it's the emotional hits that always go through. Their endless arguments are getting tiring. She wants to look through his phone and he says no. She asks why and he never replies. She'll shed a few tears and he'll hold her close, but his phone stays in the left side of his pocket.
He never hits her.
They've been together for a year now and he's ready to quit. Never having a real reason just the excuse of, "I need space to go grow." She cries and he walks away. He no longer can comfort her because the love isn't there anymore. It wasn't her fault they grew a part, so why is she in so much pain?
She gave him all she had and now she's left heartbroken. He still hasn't hit her, so why does she feel so beat up?
He finally ends it all, leaving her to wallow for weeks in her bedroom. She hasn't eaten for days, she's hoping he'll come back soon. He's already moved on and here she is wishing she knew where they went wrong.
She'll keep thinking it was her fault. Her self esteem will slowly dwindle away...she'll get it back. This is a pain she's never felt, but it'll end. It took her time to move on. She thought never she'd smile again.
Good thing is she made it out.
Abusive relationships come in many forms. It's easy to judge someone else stuck in one, unless you were in the same predicament. They're never planned, so you never see them coming.
It may not ever be you, but you've seen one before. Maybe it was a friend you tried to save...they just never listened.
They're hard to stop.
It's not always the women who are the victims. Abuse is abuse, no matter the gender. These relationships have become so common that we tend to ignore them. As long as no one's getting hit, the relationship can't be abusive.
Sometimes the man's ego is torn apart every day by his lover. She never sees the good in him, only the things he does wrong. He tries his best to please her, but it's never enough. He never leaves because he thinks he won't find better. She never changes her ways because she knows he's not going anywhere.
She yells until her lungs give out. He can't help but hide the tears because he doesn't want to seem weak. If he shows his emotion, she'll tear him to pieces.
He doesn't want to kick it with his boys anymore. The only thing that could cure his sadness is her, but she's also the cause of it.
He wasn't so lucky to make it out unharmed. She never touched him, but her words did. They destroyed him so bad, he wanted to destroy himself even more.
It was a close call, but he made it out alive.
Words can destroy a life. He'll be called over dramatic, but he was actually emotionally dead inside, so he was just trying to finish the job.
No one ever deserves these types of relationships, but that's just life. We're put in situations we sometimes never thought we'd ever be in, so we try to adapt.
But whether we adapt or not, one day the abuse will stop... one way or another.
