9 Things I'd Do If I Didn't Hold Myself Back

9 Things I'd Do If I Didn't Hold Myself Back

We all let our insecurities and fears hold us back, so here's nine things I'd do if they weren't holding me back.

I'm constantly telling myself that I'm going to do something...then I never do it. I chicken out. One day I've got a plan and the next I just let it vanish because I'm too nervous or afraid, sometimes even lazy, to enact that plan. I'm too afraid to find out what the outcome is, to face the chance of being disappointed even though the flipside to that is being proud. Confident, even. I do this because of my anxiety, because of my fear of failure, because here lately my life has taught me that boring is better. So here's a list of all of the things that I'd do if I didn't hold myself back...and who knows, maybe by putting them down on paper (well, technically on the internet), I'll be more likely to accomplish them.

1. Go on a road trip to see the world’s quirkiest things.


Since high school, I’ve had a dream of going around and seeing the craziest stuff America has to offer, like the World’s Largest Lightbulb, the Beer Can House, Carhenge, The World’s Largest Basket, and Galleto Meadows, just to name a few. I’ve never found anyone willing to take a trip like this, but I’ve always thought that maybe once I graduate with my degree, it’ll be time. Then, of course, I promptly talk myself down and assume that a million things would go wrong while I’m driving alone.

2. Get a tattoo.

A lot of my friends have one, but this really, seriously freaks me out because (a) it’s permanent and what if what I get doesn’t mean the same thing to me 30 years from now? (b) I’m afraid to get it any place that will either shrink if I lose weight or expand if I gain (dear lord, please no), and (c) I’m terrified I’ll be that girl who only had a dot because it hurt too bad.

3. Color my hair.

I’ve been obsessed with this hairstyle/color that Mae Whitman has in this picture, but the thought of coloring my hair is daunting. I’ve always been the type to hack off my hair in a moment’s notice and regret it a second later, so I don’t want that to happen with this.

4. Wear a huge sweater and tights and look like I don’t give a crap.

I’m so jealous of the girls who can wear this look and look absolutely flawless and thin. I’m pretty sure I’d look like a trash bag disguised a pumpkin. I’ve always been too self-conscious of the way I look, and I always get outfit-approval before I leave the house because I’m afraid to be judged…but the thing is, no one except for me is really judging me.

5. Give a cute guy my number.

I’m the shy type, so this is scary. I’m in awe of anyone who can do without turning the color of a tomato and sounding like they’ve swallowed their dog’s squeaker toy. Knowing me, I’d probably give over my mom’s phone number because I always accidentally give hers out instead to the sweepstakes I sign up for or on other forms, because that’s my most often called.

6. Go to a random concert.

I’m quite the music freak. I have a stack of CDs in my car’s consul because I listen to them too much to put back in the case with other CDs. Recently, I’ve been listening to a lot of The Head and the Heart, Johnny Cash, Mumford and Sons and The Avett Brothers (my most favorite band ever). I wish that I was one of those people going to indie band concerts and passing on music recommendations to other people. I just want to share my love for powerful lyrics, chill-inducing music and songs worth blaring in your car. Windows open, of course.

7. Find PBs (potential bridesmaids).

Although I don’t have a boyfriend (yet), I’m one of those girls already planning out my wedding. I tape "Say Yes to the Dress," think about color schemes and have songs (walking down the aisle to “Like Real People Do” by Hozier, first dance to “I Won’t Give Up” by Jason Mraz, dance with my dad to “A Father’s First Spring” by The Avett Brothers. The one thing that I’m missing is bridesmaids, and that’s simply because I don’t have a whole lot of close friends—sure, I have a lot of friends, but not many that I’m super close with. So “Potential Bridesmaids” is a lot like Find a squad or Make some best friends.

8. Order something other than a cheeseburger.

Everywhere I go, I order a cheeseburger. Seriously. I’m afraid to try anything new because I don’t want to waste money on something I might not like. So it’s always a cheeseburger, plain except for the cheese and pickles, with ketchup.

9. Be myself.


I tend to be overly introverted, although it’s gotten better (I think) since I got to college. I want people to see that I’m funny, way competitive, nice, silly and a strong-willed individual.

The thing about it is, all of these are tangible...things I can do if I just put forth the effort and stash all of my fears and insecurities away. I am who I am, and the only way to make myself shine and to make my dreams come true, is to let them. So maybe I should start doing that, huh?
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What Your Hogwarts House Says About You

Get yourself sorted and find out where you belong in the world of witchcraft and wizardry.

Sorting at Hogwarts is a big deal. Being sorted into a house is essentially being placed into a family while you are away from home learning about witchcraft and wizardry. Your house is made up of the people you will live with, go to classes with, play Quidditch with and everything in between. You basically spend 24/7 with them. Your Hogwarts house is your home away from home.

When you get sorted into a house, it is based on your personality traits. The people in your house are typically like-minded people who display the same characteristics as you.

When you’re a first year at Hogwarts, the minute you set foot in the castle you are swept into the Great Hall to have the ancient Sorting Hat placed on your head. This Sorting Hat decides which “family” you’ll be spending your seven years with.

For some, it is very obvious which house they will be in, due to certain personality traits they possess. For others, they may exemplify traits that fit a multitude of houses and are uncertain where they may end up.

To find out where you belong, you can take the official "Harry Potter" Sorting Hat quiz at Pottermore.com. For all you muggles out there, these are the characteristics that the houses possess and what your house says about you:

Gryffindor: The house of the brave, loyal, courageous, adventurous, daring and chivalrous. Those who stand up for others are typically Gryffindors. Brave-hearted is the most well-known Gryffindor characteristic, and Gryffindors are also known for having a lot of nerve.

Gryffindors are people who hold a multitude of qualities alongside the ones listed, making them a very well-rounded house. People who are Gryffindors are often people who could fit nicely into another house but choose to tell the sorting hat they want Gryffindor (there's that bravery). "Do what is right" is the motto Gryffindors go by.

Being a Gryffindor means that you're probably the adventurous and courageous friend, and you are usually known for doing what is right.

Ravenclaw: The house is known for their wisdom, intelligence, creativity, cleverness and knowledge. Those who value brains over brawn can be found here. Ravenclaws often tend to be quite quirky as well. "Do what is wise" is the motto they strive to follow.

Though Ravenclaws can be know-it-alls sometimes, they most likely do know what the wisest decision is.

If you are known for being the quirky friend, the smartest in the group or just great at making wise decisions, you're definitely a Ravenclaw.

Hufflepuff: This house values hard work, dedication, fair play, patience, and loyalty. Hufflepuff’s are known for being just and true. "Do what is nice" is their motto.

Hufflepuff is known as the “nice house” and believes strongly in sparing peoples feelings and being kind. This is not to say that Hufflepuffs aren't smart or courageous. Hufflepuffs just enjoy making others happy and tend to be more patient towards people.

If you ever find that you are too nice for your own good and cannot bear to hurt someone’s feelings, congratulations, you are a Hufflepuff.

Slytherin: This is the house of the cunning, prideful, resourceful, ambitious, intelligent, and determined. Slytherin's love to be in charge and crave leadership. "Do what is necessary" is the motto of this house.

Slytherin is a fairly well-rounded house, similar to the other houses. They are loyal to those that are loyal to them just as Gryffindors are and are intelligent as Ravenclaws.

Slytherin house as a whole is not evil, despite how many dark wizards come out of this house. That is merely based on the choices of those wizards (so if your friend is a Slytherin, don’t judge, it doesn’t mean they are mean people). Slytherins do, however, have a tendency to be arrogant or prideful. This is most likely due to the fact that everyone in Slytherin is exceedingly proud to be there.

What Hogwarts house you’re in says a lot about the person you are, the traits you possess and how you may act in some situations. But in the end, your house is really just your home that is always there for you. Always.

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10 Things All Introverts Can Relate To, Even If They Don't Openly Acknowledge It

All of the things about life that straddle the fine line of being exciting and exhausting for those who are more self-observant.


All of the things about life that straddle the fine line of being exciting and exhausting for those who are more self-observant.

1. Having so much pride in yourself for actually making plans to go out

The first step is always the hardest right? Getting out of your comfort zone is the only way to explore all that the world has to offer, and taking the initiative to get off of the couch and put yourself in a situation to meet new people warrants a little pat on the back.

2. Getting adopted by an extrovert friend that forces you go out 

Most introverts find themselves tagging along on adventures that they normally would have avoided entirely if not for their extrovert friends' need for social stimulation. Opposites attracting seem to be the causality for the dynamic duos of extrovert and introvert friendships.

3. Feeling like you would actually rather die than go to the plans you made

Agreeing to go to a party a week in advance, but when the day finally arrives all you want to do is come up with a halfway believable reason not to go and catch up on all of this week's shows.

4. Dragging your feet about going out only to have a great time once you're there

Rather you don't have the heart to flake out on plans, or your friends see through your excuses and come to abduct you anyway, the dread over having to make yourself presentable and facing more social interaction is real. But once you're out and about you find yourself enjoying other people's company and the brief reprieve that conversation offers from your own inner dialogue.

5. Needing a recovery period after having socialized for extended periods of time

After the initial high of connecting with the people around you wears off, feelings of fatigue from having been "on" for so long start to set in. While everyone needs their me-time at the end of a long day, introversion requires regular recharge periods in order to feel balanced again.

6. Wanting to be invited to events even if you don't necessarily want to go

Getting offended when people make plans without you but also not wanting to feel obligated to go if they had is a struggle every introvert knows. Besides, even if your friends already know what you'll say in response to being invited out, it's the thought that counts.

7. Wanting people to approach you first so that you can start a friendship

Another aspect of introvert life is the desire to expand your social circle but being impeded by your wallflower tendencies. You recognize personalities similar to yours but that also usually includes the same reservation that stops you from introducing yourself to start the friendship.

8. Cherishing those weekends when it's just you doing whatever you want to do

There's nothing better than an empty weekend to just enjoy the lack of social obligations that have drained you all week. It's a time to soak up the silence and catch up on your favorite novel or whittle down your watch-list saved on the DVR.

9. Being aware of all kinds of drama unfolding around you 

A lesser-known benefit of the quiet life is the entertainment that comes with it; being more of a social observer than one to engage, you see all kinds messy behavior that makes for great tea when it all hits the fan. It's like reality T.V without having to wait for the next episode.

10. Living your best life because you stay in your own lane

Arguably the best part of introvert life is its ease. When you keep to yourself—with the exception of nosy but pure-hearted extrovert friends—there's no drama to disrupt the flow of your life and you're able to focus on self-improvement.

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