An 8-Step Program To Get Out Of That Rut You're In

An 8-Step Program To Get Out Of That Rut You're In

And ultimately make yourself a happier person.

We all get there, the lows in life where you feel like you're stuck in this place of bad moods and unhappiness forever. These ruts in life are anything but fun and can seem impossible to pull yourself out of, but I promise you it's possible. Here are some tried and true tips of mine to hoist yourself out of this low point in your life:

1. Get it out

Whether you talk to a friend, post long captions on your Finsta pictures, type it out in your notes on your phone, or journal; get it out of your mind. It genuinely helps you not feel so alone and not have your mind constantly encircling this "lowness" if you get it out of your mind and on paper or in another person's head.

2. Get inspiration

When you're at a low point in your life, typically that is when you feel the most unmotivated and uninspired and it seems so incredibly hard to get re-inspired about life. But don't think too hard about it, inspiration is everywhere. In books, on Youtube, in dream boards, in your friends; it doesn't matter where you choose to find it, just make sure you do. I find the most inspiration in watching people on Youtube who I find inspirational and who live how I aspire to. More recently I've discovered the art of inspirational books by reading "You Are A Badass" by Jen Sincero (I highly recommend it). Overall, getting your inspiration for life back is going to make you feel happier, better, and more like yourself.

3. Get a new perspective on your life

If you're in a low point in your life, chances are you're not the happiest and most positive person you could be and that is due to your mindset. If your mindset is leaning toward the negative side, your perspective on your life will be as well. So naturally, you want to attack that terrible mindset first; all it takes is a little conscious effort to change a negative mindset around. And likewise, the perspective you have on your whole life will be shifted to (hopefully) a more positive, happier one. Another simple way to gain a new feel and perspective in your life is to rearrange the furniture in your room, redecorate your walls or your desk, or try something you've never done before.

4. Take time for yourself

With all of this said, don't always sit in your room by yourself and not socialize or slack off on your homework. Take time for yourself, refresh, reenergize, get back out there, and be the best you can possibly be. Spending too much time alone will only add to your lowness, so go out, hang with friends, and have fun with your life.

6. Focus on your health

When you're feeling low it seems so easy to dump Cheetos and Pop Tarts and Little Debbie Snack Cakes in your mouth, but really all it's going to do is make you feel worse. Be aware of what foods you're eating, not every single thing has to be healthy, but focus on eating things that you feel good about eating and will make you feel good physically as well. Becoming more dedicated to working out will make you feel a million times better as well, not only are you releasing endorphins (which chemically make you feel happier) but you are also going to feel so accomplished by doing something so great for yourself when otherwise you would probably be scrolling through social media.

7. Find ways to get away from your lowness

This point can be applied to every other tip I have already given you in one way or another. Whether you decide you're going to hit the gym everyday, pick up a new hobby, like yoga or Zumba, or just spend more time with your friends it is important to find something you can do with your time other than wallowing in your lowness. Finding something you're passionate about and makes you happy is such an amazing feeling and almost immediately lifts your mood simply because you have time set aside in your life where you're not allowed to be focused on it.

8. Love yourself

This is the absolute most important tip I could possibly give you. Loving yourself creates such a beautiful, happy glow around your life and everything becomes so amazing and wonderful. It is hard to begin loving yourself, especially if you never have, but it is a process and please remind yourself growth does not happen overnight. Loving yourself is addicting because as Jen Sincero says in her book: "Love yourself and life becomes a party."

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Being Ugly

What it means to me


Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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