Letting go of someone is never easy. In today's society, it's difficult to find people who truly care about you and are genuine in their actions and feelings. Having someone you care about walk out of your life, for whatever reason, is hard to deal with. Whether it is a friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc., having people fall out of your life is painful. However, what people need to realize is that every single thing that happens in life, happens for a reason. With that being said, it's essential that you let go and move on with your life.
In order to let go, there are some stages that most people go through in order to fully rid someone from their lives.
Stage 1: The Emotional Stage
The initial reaction when someone leaves you is to be extremely emotional. I mean, he did say he loved you, and now he's walking right out? It feels like your heart is being ripped right out of your chest and that nothing else in the world can fix you besides him, so you just cry until you can't cry anymore.
Stage 2: The Denial Stage
After you've finished crying, you refuse to believe such a thing just happened. There's no way that your boyfriend just broke up with you. There's no way your girlfriend wanted to see other people. No, that can't be what's going on. They will probably be crawling back to you tomorrow. Deep breaths. They'll come back... right?
Stage 3: The Excessive Eating Stage
Once you finally realize that this person is, in fact, not coming back, you decide to drown your sorrows in food. You literally eat everything in sight, and nonstop, too. The fattier, the better. The more calories, the more satisfying. You are filling an empty void with food, and with zero shame.
Stage 4: The Getting Support From Your Friends Stage
At this point, your friends are sick and tired of hearing you cry and complain. They want you to move on with your life more than you do just so they don't have to hear you talk about it anymore. This is when your friends sit down with you and talk, cry, talk mad sh*t and cry more. More than anything, they want you to know you're not alone.
Stage 5: The F**k It Stage
You're done feeling sorry for yourself. It's time to get over it once and for all. There's not a better way to do that than to go out with your friends that just cried with you and try to forget everything. Going out with your girls will take your mind off of him. Hanging with the boys will totally help you forget her. There's nothing a good night out can't fix.
Stage 6: The Poor Decision Stage
After your night out, you're bound to think about your ex. Also known as the stupid stage, this is where you make awful decisions and call, text or even approach your ex when you're not completely sober. It's very embarrassing and super uncalled for, but it happens.
Stage 7: The Discovery Stage
After you get all your emotions out of your system, the discovery stage happens. This is the stage where you are finally able to think like a real person and make logical decisions. This is where you contemplate whether it really is the end of the world or not. Most often than not, you realize all on your own that it isn't.
Stage 8: The Letting Go Stage
This is the final stage, where you realize that you are just as good as you have always been, maybe even better, without the person who walked out of your life. You come to know that there are still people who care about you. There is more to life than a relationship. Life goes on and you will find who is meant for you. So, for now, enjoy the people in your life who know your worth and love you unconditionally.
