Ah, being in love is one of the best feelings in the world, isn't it? Through the midst of all the butterflies and happy emotions we get out of love, we often want things to stay perfect so badly that we find ourselves drifting towards overthinking, expecting, doubting, worrying, fearing and believing insecurities which ultimately results in a breakup. Although none of us really see it coming until its too late, here are some simple ways to improve relationships so you don't get off the right path (or ways to rebuild one that was broken).
1. Never stop trying
Once we have our person, the idea that you don't have to try anymore sets inside our heads. That thinking is absurd; you should always be letting your person know how much you appreciate them, how much you care about them and how happy you are to have them.
2. Let the past go
Everyone has baggage from their past and although it may get under your skin, you can't move forward until you learn to let things go. Remember that fight you got in three months ago about blah blah blah? Let it stay where it started three months ago. Bringing up old issues again again gets old and pushes the two of you apart.
3. Spend time together
Spending time together is so crucial. It's always fun to hangout with your friends in bulk and enjoy life but sometimes you need to spend one on one time to rekindle the spark. Go out for a night and enjoy each others company.
4. Understand that sacrifices are tangible
Sometimes so many things get thrown on our plate and it gets hard to carry. Work or college is something that needs to be done to make a living and sometimes it strips all your time and energy down, but it doesn't mean you should cut everything out of your life. It is okay to maintain a busy work/school schedule when you have the understanding that one day it will get easier. Don't let go of other things to maintain it.
5. Don't let fear consume you
Don't let the fear of losing your person consume you. Stop being afraid of all the things that could go wrong and just live in the moment where everything is going just right. The biggest thing is the fear that you will end up bruised and broken like your previous relationship, but the past can't inflict on your future. Don't be afraid to fall when your person will catch you.
6. Communication is key
The moment something is bothering you, bring it up to your person so it is resolved sooner. The more you let it build inside you the more it will eat at you until you blow up and catch your person off guard. It's also very important to be vocal about your good feelings too so your person is assured you are moving forward as a team not an individual.
7. Don't quit
When things aren't going ideal and it seems like nothing can get better, don't just quit. Work it out because usually everything will be alright again but it does take effort as a team to get there. It's always sad to see something great lost that could've been saved.
8. Don't let others push you
Everyone has their own idea of what a relationship should be and none of them are the same. Don't let someone tell you that you need to be doing one thing, or somethings should have happened already. They're not involved directly in your relationship and the greatest things take time.
