Almost everyone has heard of the hit television show Grey's Anatomy. The show is a medical drama that focuses on the fictional lives of the surgical residents, interns and attending as they evolve into brilliant doctors even through the struggle of life. Even though the creator, Shonda Rhimes throws curveballs at her audience (and I mean heartbreak after heartbreak) we all can't get enough of it. For me, through all the drama, spoiler alerts and deaths, the show demonstrates plenty of meaningful lessons to take from the show. For me, it's taught me a bunch of key concepts on love and relationships.
1. Don't compare yourself to anyone
Regardless of who your crush has been in a relationship with before, the past is in the past and you will never be able to change that about them. Rather than obsessing over who they were with before and thinking of all the differences the two of you share, focus on the differences that make you who you are. You're the present for a reason, he picked you, he chose you, he loves YOU as Meredith Grey would be proud to hear.
2. You have to start somewhere
As much as we want it to be perfect from the start, it's always takes time. Expectations aren't always met and we feel robbed, but sometimes what we expect is short of what we end up getting in the end. Sometimes you start out as strangers or expect to never see that person again and it evolves into something you've always been looking for.
3. It's okay to be different
Everyone has their own idea of what a relationship should be. For some, it's about blasting each other all over the internet, and for others, it's about binge watching Netflix on a Friday night. At the end of the day, the only people involved in your relationship are you and your partner. As long as the two of you are happy, don't feel the need to measure up to those around you.
4. You don't have to impress each other
At the beginning, you're always worried about your hair being perfect, your makeup being flawless and of course, having the sexiest outfit from your closet on. There comes a certain point though, where your appearance is the last thing on your mind and it's okay because your parter doesn't care either.
5. It's okay to heal yourself in your own way
After a heartbreak we all find ourselves finding the remedy to mend what's been broken, whether it's eating a pint of Ben and Jerry's by yourself or moving on to the next, it's ultimately your decision and you can't let anyone degrade you for doing what you feel is best.
6. Live in the moment
As humans we are always stressing out about the future; sometimes, it really gets the best of us. You never know what's coming to you tomorrow so instead of trying to prepare yourself for the worse scenario or tossing the "what if's" back and forth in your head, relax.
7. You will have to make sacrifices
It's never going to be all about you in a relationship. If your partner needs you, it's your job to be there to pick them up or lend them a hand, even if it's not in your favor.
8. Sometimes the "end" isn't really the end
The famous quote, "If you love someone, set them free and if they come back, they're yours," is definitely one to live by. Even though it'll suck for one of you, or maybe even both, what's meant to be will truly be in the end. Patience is a virtue. e all crave to be loved by someone but don't forget to love yourself first.
