8 Lessons Gilmore Girls Taught Me About Feminism

8 Lessons Gilmore Girls Taught Me About Feminism

Life lessons from Stars Hollow.

"Gilmore Girls" is a phenomenon that has to be explained to those who have never seen it. To non-viewers, it looks like a cutesy show about the lives and relationship between a mother and daughter, which granted, it kind of is. But beneath the surface, there's so much more to it than meets the eye. As I grew up, so did Lorelai and Rory and the rest of the cast. As Lorelai and Rory kindly explained to television non-believer Dean, this isn't just a show: "It's a lifestyle." "It's a religion." With its endearing moments, witty humor, and compelling characters, this show has always been one to watch. "Gilmore Girls" has taught us not to sacrifice everything for a significant other, the importance of female friendship, and everything in between. Although I don't think the creators intended for the show to become iconic in the sense of feminism, there's no doubt the strong female leads align with feminist interests of equality.

1. "Who cares if I'm pretty if I fail my finals?"

This particular exchange between Lorelai and Rory highlights the overemphasis of female beauty in our society and the pressure placed on women to base their worth on their outward appearance. Rory defies the notion that her looks are more important than what's inside her brain when she's stressing over her school exams. One thing's for sure: this girl's priorities are definitely in order.

2. "Luke, will you marry me?"

Talk about defying gender norms. A defining moment in "Gilmore Girls" history is when Lorelai proposes to Luke herself. Very non-traditional, of course. But Lorelai doesn't care. She didn't wait for Luke to propose marriage. Instead, she made it happen herself. She knew what she wanted and she went after it. Lorelai taught me that it's okay, great even, to be a go-getter.

3. "Sure, we're girls, so we could only be arguing about a boy, right?"

Good ol' Paris. My favorite no-nonsense, driven feminist, demonstrating the absurdity of the principal's notion that all girls argue about are boys. Because clearly all female disputes are over guys. Clearly.

4. "She was lying in the hospital thinking about how men name boys after themselves all the time, so why couldn't women? She says her feminism just kind of took over."

Rory brings up a valid point when she's explaining the story of how she got her name. Really though, men name their sons after themselves frequently. That's a pretty normal, accepted practice in our society. So why should it be weird or shocking if a woman wants to do the same?

5. "I love the idea of being married to you, but there are just a lot of things right now in my life that are undecided. And that used to scare me, but now I kind of like the idea that it's just all kind of...wide open. And if I married you, it just wouldn't be."

Logan's proposal to Rory was a pretty big moment. She's at the point in her life where there are so many possibilities out there for her, and by choosing to go with Logan's plan for their life, even though she loves him, those doors would be shut. Rory chose to put her goals before her love life and establish her career before considering marriage.

6. "If you're gonna throw your life away, he'd better have a motorcycle."

It's hard not to love a character like Lorelai when she gives such great life advice. Another classic example of how not to let a guy become the main focus of your life.

7. "I stopped being a child the minute the strip turned pink...I built a life on my own with no help from anyone."

Lorelai is the definition of an independent woman. She was forced to grow up faster than her peers and had no help from her parents, relying on no one but herself to raise her daughter. She started from the bottom and became the boss. She's proof that hard work is necessary and pays off.

8. "I want to live my life so that I'll be able to read an in-depth biography about myself in later years and not puke."

Truly a force to be reckoned with. Paris is a girl who knows what she wants and always goes after it. Miss Geller taught me that in order to get anything in life, you need to know what you want and find a way to get it. You can't wait around and expect that whatever you want will simply fall into your lap. You've gotta admire her philosophy on life.

So there you have it. Beyond the heartwarming family moments, smart humor and endless life lessons, there are plenty of feminist leanings sprinkled in to satisfy viewers everywhere.

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A Letter To My Go-To Aunt

Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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15 Thing Only Early 2000's Kids Will Understand

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This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.


Contrary to what one may think, late 90's and early 00's kids had the same childhood, but whenever a 00's kid says they remember something on an "only 90's kids will understand" post they are ridiculed.

2. Fortune tellers.


Every day in elementary school you would whip one of these bad boys out of your desk, and proceed to tell all of your classmates what lifestyle they were going to live and who they were going to marry.



You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.


You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.


The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers


You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.


The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"


The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution


This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi


Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

12. Gym Scooters


You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs


Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.



Who knew that putting yogurt in a plastic tube made it taste so much better?

15. Slap Bracelets


Your school probably banned these for being "too dangerous".

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