After a breakup from a great and involved relationship, you find your life taking a different shape than you expected. The breakup taught you some new things about yourself. But one thing is for sure: you'll never be the same.
1. Your attitude completely changes.
Suddenly you become more aggressive, sassy, emotional and even strong. A breakup sends your attitude into a whirlwind of changes, and this can help you in the long run. Now you are stronger and can stand up for yourself, put your foot down when needed, and the sassy attitude can get you pretty far.
2. You feel bittersweet freedom.
This feeling of freedom is good and bad. Your overwhelmed, happy, relieved and lonely all at once. You're liberated, but you don't exactly feel free still. But now you can date anyone, talk to anyone, do whatever, go wherever and make any choices not worrying about how it will make your significant other feel. But then again, you're not totally sure what to do with yourself.
3. You remember parts of yourself.
While in a relationship, everything about you completely changes, and it can be a great thing! Your happiness is different. But now, you only have to focus on your own goals and ambitions. Where the empty space in your body that the old relationship once was, there are many new opportunities to fill it for you.
4. You see your ex differently.
Was it a loss or a gain? Is he missing out or am I? Was he really this stupid while we were dating, or was I just blinded by his greatness? There are so many things you can ask yourself after the fact, but when you are officially not together, you look back on him and wonder if this is really what you wanted. You think hard about what matters to you in a relationship for your future. All you know is that you don't want to repeat the mistakes you made before.
5. You no longer look to see what love is, because you know.
It's okay to admit that you were in love with him. Each person you date leads you to the right one eventually. From each relationship, you learn various things about love, life and being with someone in a relationship. But now you know that not every story ends in a happy ending. You don't get as excited as you might have before about cute movies and weddings. Nothing can define love for you, only you yourself really knows what it means.
6. You depend on no one but yourself.
If the person who loved you so much broke you and let you down,you realize that anyone can now. You never really understood what it means to be a self-reliant person.You know now that not everyone is truthful and reliable, and that's okay — it must be dealt with. It's smart to depend on no one but yourself.
7. Your past does not define you.
Now you have a better sense of how to hold onto yourself if you fall for someone again. You know to not trust easily and love too hard. You realize that there is still parts of you that are strong and unchanging. You eventually move on from the past — and yes, the past always follows you, but it is possible to be happy and start over again.
