7 Ways To Be There For A Friend Experiencing A Breakup That Seems Hopeless
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7 Ways To Be There For A Friend Experiencing A Breakup That Seems Hopeless

Better to have loved and lost.

Sydney Wright
Feb 04, 2021
University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
46
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Photo by Briana Tozour on Unsplash

'Tis the season for breakups. No really---studies show that high percentages of breakups occur around Valentine's Day. Why that is, one can't be sure. If you know someone going through a touch breakup right now, here are seven things you can do to help them.

1. Let them vent

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Yes, it's going to get repetitive and maybe annoying (if you knew this relationship wasn't meant to last)---but letting your friend spill their emotions is key to them being able to move on.

2. Get them out of the house

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With quarantine, this is a bit more difficult. But the last thing you want is for your friend to be cooped up in a house/dorm/apartment alone thinking about their ex. Go on a socially distanced walk with them if possible.

3. Give them space

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Sure, you might want to know all the hot gossip surrounding their breakup, but let your friend process what just happened to them. They'll tell you the details when they're ready.

4. Don't say "I told you so"

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When someone is heartbroken, it serves no one to say you saw their breakup coming.

5. Listen when they talk

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Listen to their emotions, their rants, and how much they miss/don't miss this person.

6. Don't talk about future relationships

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Now is not the time to bring up that person from class you think would be a good match for them.

7. Look out for red flags

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If this person's mental health takes a serious dip after their breakup, be prepared to step-in and/or find professional help for them. It's normal to be sad, anxious, and angry after a breakup, but if you suspect self-harm, don't wait to get them help.

Breakups are tough and something almost everyone has gone through. Dig out the tub of ice cream, a good TV show, and prepare for some wholehearted nights of crying. Your friend will remember your kindness in the long run.

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