I've experienced the impact of death way too many times. Sadly, I've been to almost more funerals than I have fingers to count them with. However, death is inevitable, but it is still heartbreaking when it happens. Two weeks ago my step-dad unexpectedly passed away, and I've been re-experiencing all the emotions that death brings. After much thought, I've thought of the things that experiencing death teaches you.
1. Death teaches you not to take people for granted.
I know it is a cliche but it is true. But seriously, you really never know when someone's last day on earth could be. Never take the ones you love for granted, they might not be there when you need them.
2. Death teaches you to never end a conversation upset with each other.
It really bothers me when I argue with someone, and we just leave the conversation as an argument. You never know, that could be the last conversation you have with them. Never fall asleep angry or upset, just get over yourself and figure things out.
3. Death teaches you that crying is 100% okay.
Crying is healthy when it comes to grief, it is expected. Crying can help you heal when you really hurt. Don't be ashamed to let the tears flow.
4. Death also teaches you that it is okay to make jokes and laugh.
It is definitely okay to laugh even while you are grieving. Thinking of memories you had with someone or quirks about them can make you laugh, and it is okay. Laughing doesn't mean you are being insensitive, it is just another part of healing.
5. Death teaches you that you might have to rely on others for help.
No matter how independent you are, when you experience death, you will be weaker than you normally are. Friends and family are there to support you and to help you get through the pain, don't just try to do it on your own.
6. Death teaches you to love even harder.
Don't forget to hug the ones you love a little extra, and tell them how much they mean to you. People need to know that they are important to you, so let them know, you might not get another chance to tell them.
7. Death teaches you to take more pictures.
I know some people hate pictures, but they help build memories. It is nice to have pictures to look back on and remember your loved ones who aren't with you anymore.
Don't take the ones you love for granted, you never know when their time is left in the world, and you don't want to have regrets when they are gone.
This piece is dedicated to my step-dad Joel, I love you and will miss you.
