Being in school and working, along with trying to maintain other responsibilities, can sometimes take a significant toll on the body and mental health. Whether you've decided to take 2 classes, or even 6, there is no doubt that college requires a great amount of effort, time, and patience. It is all too easy to start to feel alone, and start doubting yourself.
Here are some helpful tips to keep in mind this semester.
1. Never stop trying your best
Before classes start, set a goal/s for yourself that you'd like to achieve for the semester. Whether it is to actually complete all of your homework assignments, or to get good grades on all of your tests... make a promise to yourself that you will put 100% into whatever it is. Even if the outcome isn't something you anticipated or hoped for, continue to try your best anyway. Simply be proud of yourself for getting so far in life. It is a wonderful accomplishment.
2. Don't compare yourself to other students
The first exam has finally come and gone, and the professor is returning the grades. You get your grade, and you received a C... you look over and see that your friend (who didn't even study) got an A. In this moment, it will be very tempting to scream at the top of your lungs and get angry. Don't. It is very easy to experience "grade envy," especially when you know that you tried your best, and still did not get the grade you had hoped for.
Take the time you're given until the next test to reflect on what you can do differently, and how you can study more efficiently. Everyone's journey in life is completely unique. Focus on your strengths, and only strive to be better than the person you were yesterday.
3. Your grades do not determine your worth
It is fair to say that most college exams require a great deal of memorization and test taking skills. While students do learn a great deal from professors; when it comes to taking a quiz or exam, most only remember the information just long enough to get them through the test. MAYBE the entire course.
Test taking anxiety is a very real thing, and many students struggle with it during their college career. So if you happen to fail a test, or get a low score, don't chalk it up to mean that you are unintelligent, or of less worth than someone who gets amazing grades. In 5 years, chances are, you probably won't even remember the grade you got in that course anyway.
4. You are not alone
Many times, when we are under a lot of stress and pressure, it is very easy to neglect and miss the beautiful things around us. No matter how alone you may feel this semester, keep in mind that you never are. There will always be someone experiencing something similar even though it may not seem like it. Most people prefer to keep their true feelings to themselves out of fear of appearing weak, or feeling vulnerable.
I guarantee you that about 95% of the people that you walk by on campus on a daily basis have their own concerns regarding school. If you truly feel overwhelmed, reach out to a friend, family, or school counselor.
5. It's okay to have fun
You've made up your mind...all work and no play this semester. While it is essential that you stay focused, it is just as important to have a healthy balance. It is okay to go out and do something fun (safe) with your friends, and have a good laugh. Doing so can help give you a new perspective on things, and eliminate the stress. Stick to that schedule, but always make sure that you make time to smile.
6. Make Connections
College is a place where you can meet so many interesting, talented people! Although you are comfortable with being alone, it is important to try to form connections that can benefit both your personal and professional life. Simply start by just saying hello to someone new everyday. You never know where it can lead. Amazing things happen can happen when you decide to step outside of your comfort zone.
7. Your mental health comes first
When you start to feel yourself getting stressed out, reach out to someone. Take some time to do something that will make you feel happy and relaxed. Don't wait until everything spirals out of control before taking action.
If things become increasingly overwhelming, it is okay to take a break. School will always be there. Do not allow anyone to make you feel bad or guilty about making certain decisions. Always push yourself, and pay attention to when your body/ mind is asking for help. You cannot grow and excel if your mind is clouded with negative thoughts. Make your mental health your main priority this semester!
Blessings.
