We have all been there... Drooling over our favorite TV couple, getting caught up reading a love story, or jealously scrolling past pictures of #couplegoals wishing that was us. As marvelous as it all seems, it's just not the truth. I learned this the hard way when I was head over heels for someone who could not meet the expectations that were built up in my head. When the relationship ended, I was left with nothing but sorrow, guilt, and of course, me. Through the loss, I found myself: I learned to love who I am which turned out to be the best lesson. A lesson everyone should learn. Here are 7 reasons why self-love is the best love.
1. Getting back on your feet isn't so hard anymore.
Rejections, cruel opinions, and harsh comments do not break you down like they would if you lacked self-love. Those horrible judgments will not have a negative effect, they will just ricochet right off you. Self-love lets you know that the only person you have to impress and make proud is YOU.
2. You are not your enemy. You are your best friend.
We can be pretty hard on ourselves at times. I mean, we are our own worst critic right? But instead of breaking down who you are, self-love allows you to build yourself up. It's an amazing feeling to be kind to your mind, body, and soul.
3. You are aware of your own self-worth.
Before you have love for yourself, it's easy to accept anything less than what you deserve. You constantly settle since you do not expect the best outcome for yourself. When you learn to love who you are, you only accept what you truly need. You kick out anything in your life that does not benefit or make you better. Self-love teaches you to easily walk away from what's toxic for you.
4. Being kind to yourself helps you be kind to others.
When we lash out, poke fun, or tear someone else down, we are usually working through our own insecurities. Achieving some level of self-love allows you to take care of others in the same manner you take care of yourself. You will start to be more aware of the worth of others, and that can start from not being so judgemental.
5. You are only dependent on yourself.
Have you ever relied on someone so much that they seemed to be your entire world? I have. But what happens when your pillars break and fall apart? You have NO ONE else to pick up the pieces but yourself. Self-love lets you think and act on your own, which is the best way to live.
6. Accepting your flaws becomes easier.
This part can be pretty tricky. I will admit I struggle with this step the most. With the help of self-love, I have learned that this life is my only life: My body, personality, and life is all mine, and only mine. We all only have once chance to live our lives so we must cherish what we have. Spending your time wishing you were someone different turns out to be a total waste of time.
7. You count your blessings, and appreciate them.
It's difficult to slow and appreciate everything in your life. Our minds always seem to be going at 1000 mph and constantly stuck in a web of bad thoughts. Self-love makes you realize that tough situations are not all that bad. You learn to get up and keep living since there are so many other aspects of life to feel blessed about.
