7 Things Adults Fear Most

7 Things Adults Fear Most

Lions, tigers and bears are the least of adult troubles

1) Pocket probs

The most tangible of adult fears is money. This is not fear of the paper itself, but the fear of being tight or low on money. Fiscal responsibilities are one of the biggest responsibilities of adulthood. One must be able to manage his budget efficiently in order to be well off and have enough to both cover bills, care for kids (if you have them) and "treat yoself" from time to time.

The remainder of these fears are not tangible things. The older you get, the less tangible things are able to make you happy.

2) Decisions, decisions

Throughout adulthood, there are many big decisions to be made. Choosing a career path, a life partner, making informed health decisions, and deciding things like where to live and work are major choices that can impact your life, be it positively or negatively. Most adults fear making the wrong decision because one wrong decision can steer your life in a certain direction.

There are also many what-ifs behind this fear. For some adults, regret of decisions already made impact their lives as they ponder how things may have been different.

3) Love/loneliness

Love is a biggie. Some people are fortunate enough to find love early on and are able to enjoy being with a partner at the height of their youth. Others are not as lucky or always find themselves in the wrong relationships. There comes a point in adult life when love starts to become a huge risk and fear. You feel you are too old for games and do not have time to get played and get hurt, but at the same time, you feel that if you do not find love quickly, you may never find it.

Loneliness goes along with love because no adult wants to spend the rest of their life alone.

4) Dreams

As a wise man once said: "YOLO (You only live once)." We only have one life to live that we are all sure of, and there is no telling what may happen. Some adults fear never accomplishing their goals and dreams in life or not getting things crossed off their bucket list before they actually hit the bucket.

5) Losing people

No one is getting younger, so the fear of losing loved ones becomes a thing. For parents and spouses, they do not want to bury a child or their spouse. They also do not want to lose their parents, who may be getting up in age.

Since adulthood is a time where you are only connected to a select few friends from college or high school, you also do not want to lose those dear friendships.

6) Aging

Apart from a few cosmetic surgeries, there is nothing anyone can really do to prevent themselves from aging. At some point, your hair will start to grey and your skin will become less durable and start to sag in certain places. Since no one is experienced in aging until they get to that point, it can be a scary thought. Even as a young adult, I fear aging because it is something unknown.

7) Parenting

For the not-yet-parents:

You fear you may have kids at the wrong time or you fear that you may have passed the age that is best for having kids. Adults without children or expecting parents may fear how good of a parent they will be. There is a pressure on you that it will be quite a job and you do not want to mess up, especially if your parents set the bar high for you.

For the already-parents:

You fear that your kids will turn out horrible because of you and that people may judge you. You may also fear that you may scar them negatively for life by doing something wrong or making a mistake. For the adults whose kids are already grown and out of the house, you wonder if you did it right and if you passed on positive, good things to your children.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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Better Not Bitter

"Let your past make you better, not bitter."


After completing my junior year at Iowa State, I have found myself reflecting on a lot of the experiences and people who have helped me get to the point I am at today. Family obviously comes to mind, followed by my friends, my sorority sisters, my boyfriend, my professors, and my mentors. I am able to contribute a lot of my success to their support and compassion that they have shown me throughout my past three years. I am also able to contribute my success to the woman I have grown to be and to the woman I have always wanted to be. You see, three years ago, the woman I was was buried in a toxic relationship that didn't allow me to flourish into the woman I was striving to be.

Let me take a step back, this article is not meant to bash the person who it is about. In fact, it's more of a thank you. Because you see, without him letting go of me, I would have never taken the leaps and bounds out of my comfort zone to become the woman I am so damn proud to be today. This is also not meant to say that I am I glad I was in such a toxic relationship, it was honestly so terrible that I wouldn't wish it upon anyone but I am in fact, thankful. I learned more from that relationship that I have in anything else in my life.

First, I learned to be a fighter, and not in a bad way. I learned to stand up for myself and what I believe in. I have become vocal about my passions and stand up for people when they are treated wrong. I no longer let people walk all over me, but rather I stand my ground firmly and confidently. Thank you.

Second, I learned to be fierce. Fierce in love, kindness, compassion, and willpower. I believe in my abilities and the things I am able to accomplish if I set my mind to something. I have learned that in being fierce, there is absolutely no time to doubt myself which has worked greatly in my favor. I learned that demanding respect in all relationships I have formed has been about me making the decision to make myself a priority and learning to never settle for any less than I deserve, ever again. Thank you.

Third, I learned compassion. I learned to be kind to the other woman, and mostly, to the person who chose to hurt me. It took everything in me to remain kind while I was being hurt, but I am so thankful that I stayed true to the values and morals I was raised on. I have carried this with me throughout the past three years by choosing to show compassion to all people around me, and looking deeper into the reasons behind the actions and decisions that people make. Often times there is something going on behind closed doors and because of that, it is important to always, always radiate kindness. Thank you.

I wanted to extend my gratitude to the person who hurt me because if you hadn't, I wouldn't be the badass, boss girl, powerful woman that I am today. I am confident, smart, loving, and fully capable of giving and receiving the kindest, most sincere kind of love. My life has changed for the better, and I wouldn't change a single thing. I wish you the best, because let me tell ya, it feels great.

By the way, if you ever feel like you deserve better than what you're receiving in a relationship, trust your gut & walk the hell away. It's worth it.

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