Ever wonder what your friend sees in her "bad boy" man candy? Here's a few clues to why girls often fall for the guys that are a little rough around the edges from the perspective of someone who gets it.
1. Nobody wants a doormat
There comes a time when enough is enough. You've lent your buddy too much money, given your ex too many rides home at one in the morning – you're a push-over, and it is not cute.
Sending me numerous texts saying “sooo” and awkwardly staring at me until I come up with something to say is a nice flash back from middle school, but please don't even bother striking up a conversation if you want to play that game. Don’t get me wrong, I love talking about me, but it’s annoying having to hold the conversation alone all the time. It is okay to have your own opinion and engage in conversations. You may not always like what the bad boy stands for, but hey, at least they have something they stand for–we can all respect that.
2. Passive aggressive
Yes, the majority of women practically pose as private investigators because, face it, we find out everything, but--PLOT TWIST--women can't actually read your minds.
A bad boy is going to let you know what's up and if he is into you or not. We never hear about a good guy that isn't into you. Why? Because, honestly, the majority of them will come up with some feel-bad-for-me story as to why they can't talk to you. You’re eighteen years old – your parents didn't tell you that you couldn't have a girlfriend.
3. Just like men, us women don’t want what comes easy
The chase. Yup, you knew that was coming. Many people argue that bad boys' charm comes along with an expiration date – but what people fail to realize is that good guys' sweetness comes with an expiration date as well. Women crave something we know we aren't supposed to have, or maybe the thrill of taming the “untamable” is just intriguing – something that society portrays as the impossible.
4. Friend-zone?
Bad boys don’t stop for anything. If they see a girl as more than a friend, they don't let her get to the 'friend-zone' – they make sure she knows that sarcastic humor and all of those cheesy pickup lines are indeed flirting.
But sometimes, once you are in the friend-zone, it's time to stay there. No girl likes that awkward friend that is constantly ranting about how “you always go for the bad guys and never give the good guys a chance.” Sorry bud, that doesn't make you a good guy.
5. Predictable
Do I even need to explain myself? Netflix and take-out? Okay, girls love Netflix and take-out, but not every weekend. Routines are good, but let's face it, we're not getting any younger. Not only are bad boys fun to be around, but they are fun to go out with too. They provide us with spontaneous experiences, because do I really want to tell my friends about how we sat in my cramped dorm and finished OITNB last night?
6. Just because he is nice doesn’t automatically make him “boyfriend” material
I've learned that there is nothing worse than a man that doesn't know how to be a man – the men that think that women enjoy the whole no texting back game, but in reality aren't texting you back because they just don’t have the balls to say anything at all. Nice guys have feelings too, but the majority of the time aren't man enough to come out and tell you.
TBH those guys who pretend like everything is great all the time are just annoying. Everybody has bad days and bad times, and it is really hard to open up to somebody who isn’t real with you. Don’t just settle for nice.
