I am often referred to as "the Queen of Extra" by my friends, and I don't really argue with that title. It's a gift, really. However, there are many different ways in which a girl can express her "extra," so I decided to compile a guide to best understand my breed of person. Most of us "extra" ladies are really a mix of multiple points on this list, so don't be surprised if you (or your friends) relate to more than one.
1. The "put together" girl.
Because I am a major fan of leggings, t-shirts, and no makeup, this type of girl is one of the most annoying to see on a daily basis. Nobody knows what her true face looks like — she always is perfectly done up in her designer outfits and a full face of makeup. She probably picks out her trendy outfit the night before and wouldn't be caught dead rolling up to class wearing sweatpants.
2. The needy girl.
This girl slides into your DMs more than a cringy Tinder boy — she's constantly blowing up your phone tagging you in random Facebook posts, texting you for advice, asking you for favors, and generally assuming you have nothing to do all day but text her. And, while you love her very dearly, she quite often strikes a nerve when you're trying to be productive and all she wants to do is discuss her favorite yoga poses and the benefits of each. She definitely needs to be handled in doses.
3. The "obsessed" girl.
This girl has one thing that completely takes over her life — maybe it's her boyfriend that she can't stop talking about or the fact that she's a vegan. Whatever it is, it's always on her mind and she's probably disinterested in almost everything else.
4. The organized girl.
Never, EVER, give this girl a label maker, because she'll probably stick one on your forehead with your name on it. This girl has her schedule planned out down to the minute. On a coffee date, she may even stop you mid-story to leave for the library. It's not your fault, really, but you went over your time limit of 25 minutes and 15 seconds. You can bet she has color-coded highlighters and notes for every class and honestly could do a better job than the textbook writers at explaining the subject by the time she's done.
5. The boy-crazy girl.
Similar to the "obsessed" girl, this girl can't get enough male attention. She makes a beeline for the dance floor at every party to try and catch every man's eye, and never bats an eyelash about leaving her friends at the end of the night. Most girls will only experience this as a phase, but there are a select few who can turn this into a lifestyle.
6. The "perfect image" girl.
This one's a tough one to describe, because it's heavily reliant on social media. She knows the perfect time to post each day, can edit nearly anything into perfection, and would never let it slip that she's anything less than perfect. Perfect family, perfect boyfriend, perfect dog, perfect wardrobe… She wants you to want to be her, and it probably works.
All of this being said, each of these girls bring something awesome to a friendship, like opportunities to find new hobbies, someone always there when you need her, or someone to keep you on your toes with assignments and appointments. These girls are hard to come by, so when you find one, keep her close. We all need them in our lives, whether we want to admit it or not, and really do love them for who they are.
