It's a dream of every Christian to find the perfect man/woman wholly devoted to the Lord, Jesus Christ. Basically, we want a spouse who loves Jesus more than they love us. But to have that, we first have to find and date a Christian.
Finding, having and keeping a Godly relationship is going to be what you make it. Who you place yourself around is your dating pool. If you're hanging around the wrong people, you're probably dating the wrong people. And if you're dating the wrong people, then you're going to marry the wrong person.
And I get it, it’s so hard to find a Godly person; it’ll take you quite a few losers to find the right one. Being honest with yourself and upfront with one another is a big part of a healthy relationship. If you're lying to yourself about what’s okay and what’s not okay, then how far do you think you will go? If you're not super upfront with the other person about specific things, when the time comes and you're in the heat of the moment, what are you gonna do? Super important. Don’t date someone who you think you need to change. Don’t justify dating someone because you think you can change something about them. No matter what you think you get accomplished, they won’t ever change enough to be what you need them to be.
Going to church with your significant other is a huge part of keeping your relationship a Godly relationship. Not just going to church, but sitting side by side on the pews and holding hands during the prayers. This is a huge part because if it becomes part of your regular lives together, then the relationship will start to reflect Him. God holds our relationships with each other to a certain standard, and if we are not able to meet those standards then the relationship shouldn’t exist.
Even wrong relationship will lead you to the right one. When you get hurt in a relationship, you can choose to learn from it or let it hurt you. Choose to learn from it. If you can love the wrong person so much, imagine how much you’ll love the right one. Every heartbreak presents the opportunity to grow into an improved version of yourself. Great love shake us up, excites and terrifies us at the same time, while making us feel so desperate and out of control, that we have no choice but to transform our lives. When it leaves us, we can choose to transform into what God wants for us or what we want for ourselves.
I know what it is like to overcome a heartbreak and choose to be what God wants you to be. It is so much more worth than anything the world could give you. God calls you. You are his child. When you get to heaven, there will be GLORIOUS things waiting for you. Don’t let this little part of life get you down. God's timing is not the same as your timing. There is a MUCH bigger picture, and God has a MUCH bigger plan for you. All you have to do is wait.
