This is to any one struggling with a long-distance relationship, not just having a significant other in the military. But to me these are the five things that get me through it all. This is what keeps our relationship going strong.
1. Keep your phone close at all times.
Trust me, you never want to miss a thing. Because the one time that you do it literally will crush every part of you. My S.O. isn't big on leaving voicemails, but one time I was at work, I missed a call and he left one. I've never deleted it since. I cherish that voicemail because I wasn't there when he needed me.
2. Time
The time apart is nothing compared to when you're together. Even if you see each other for a "72" or a "96" that time spent together was everything and more. Whether you go out on dates when they are home, or stay in, it doesn't matter because you're finally with them.
3. The Distance
Many people ask,"how do you do it?" or "how do you trust each other?" To me, it's just something you just do. Trust your partner until they prove you wrong. Whether if you end up looking stupid or not for trying at least you can say that you put your all into that relationship and have no regrets. Always stay faithful. They will always come home.
4. Being Alone
This is just something you become accustomed to. This could go many different ways, good or bad. The good meaning you could take this time alone to focus on yourself and pursue your own goals while your S.O. is pursuing theirs. The bad meaning you could become depressed about being alone. Feeling less of yourself and not having any motivation because your S.O. isn't there for you like you want them to be.
5. Homecomings
The surprises never get old. Whether you know if they're coming home or not... the feeling is indescribable. My personal favorite "homecoming" is when my S.O. doesn't tell me he's coming and shows up unexpectedly.
I know exactly how you're feeling because I've been in this position for quite some time now. Don't give up on the relationship. Communicate. Trust. Stay faithful. Everything will be fine.
