5 Ways To Find True Contentment

5 Ways To Find True Contentment

Can you be truly happy?

In today's world, it is hard to find anyone who is content with their life. We always want more. We always compare ourselves to each other. We fall into this issue of the comparison trap. Now the comparison trap is really exactly what it sounds like – a trap we as humans fall into, comparing ourselves and our lives to others. We stare at the person with the really nice car and envy them for it. We want what they have because we never have enough.

But getting that car or that lifestyle or whatever you want in life, does it every really make you happy?

I can tell you that the answer is no, you may feel happy for a few minutes and then you turn around and someone drives by in a brand new Tesla and instantly you want their car. Even though you just got your "dream car." Just look at all the famous people living in the U.S. and how many of them have depression or an addiction problem, this is to fill the emptiness inside. We think that being famous means you have everything, but I think once you get there you realize being famous brings you nothingness instead. Taylor Swift said it best:

Fame isn't everything. Getting what you think you want will only make you want more. It never makes you happy; it never makes you content. Dealing with the inability to be content, we see that majority of people have FOMO-Fear Of Missing Out. This is a type of anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may occur elsewhere and you are missing out. So here are some ways I try to use to help me find contentment.

1. Ditch the Label!

Please watch the video, it is very eye opening. It shows us how fake we are with social media. We are constantly lying and we only put the best up. Don't put up the lies and remember everyone does it and no one wakes up like that!

2. Take a break from social media.

One of the best things you can do for yourself if you are really down and feeling like you have nothing, just take a break from online. Live in the real world and go out and do things. Don't post it on social media and don't look what other people are doing. Enjoy this time with friends and family go do things that you wanna do.

3. Check your heart and make sure it is strong enough to go on social media.

Since people typically post the best photos of themselves and most of the times it is a lie. We take pictures at different angles to make us look as skinny as possible then post it on social media. Makeup is used to hide the imperfections. But people shouldn't have to stop posting about their amazing vacations or things they have or their natural body type, it isn't their fault that jealousy creeps into our minds. It is a heart issue for us to first deal with. Make sure before going online that you remember their perfect life online isn't actually as perfect as you think. Make sure your heart is strong enough to handle the things you'll see.

4. Wake up every day and write down 3 things that are blessings in your life.

A short activity that you can start your day out. Thinking about your blessings and not about the things you don't have. Do this before you check your phone. Get a journal and leave it by your bed and in the morning write down the three things. If they are people send them a text or give them a call that day letting them know. A simple act of kindness can go a long way.

5. When you think something negative about yourself, then tell yourself 3 positive things.

It is important to fight the mind, it often lies to use. Deceives us and tells us we are worthless and unimportant. Fighting the negativity is not easy, but you must fight it with positivity. Saying the blessing that you have in life or the things you like about yourself helps change your mindset.

All five of these things aren't exactly easy to do. Going against the grain and not trying to be perfect online is very hard. Paul said in Philippians 4:11-14, "Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. Even so, you have done well to share with me in my present difficulty." Now, Paul, the apostle did not write this sitting in a castle, he wrote this from prison.

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I Blame My Dad For My High Expectations

Dad, it's all your fault.

I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

When it comes to other people, my dad has a heart of gold. He will do anything for anyone, even his worst enemy. He will smile at strangers and compliment people he barely knows. He will strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it means going way out of his way, and he will always put himself last.

My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

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At 15, I Was Diagnosed With Severe Endometriosis And It Changed My Life — Part 1

Your illness does not define you; your strength and courage does.


Growing up and even now I have always been the petite girl that is smaller than most but has rocking muscles. Growing up as an athlete, I knew I would never experience anything crazy in the womanhood department till later down the road compared to my friends who all began their journey early on. What I didn't know is that I would have to endure worse symptoms for life.

From the age of 12, I constantly was in and out of the doctors trying to find out why I was enduring painful cramps, throwing up, never being able to feel good after eating food, and dizziness. During that specific time of the month, I would end up every day curled in a ball not being to complete all I wanted to. I would end every doctor visit in the arms of my mom, just in tears of frustration. I didn't understand why I was facing this medical mystery that nobody could figure out until one night changed my life. As a normal night took place, I did not feel right and was taken to the hospital; test after test... an anonymous doctor approached me with the news that he believes I am a candidate for endometriosis.

Endometriosis is an auto-immune disease that is caused by the tissue that normally grows on the inside uterus, but grows on the outside the uterus and can spread to other parts of the body, including organs. After hearing this news, I was immediately scheduled for an exploratory surgery with a doctor that specializes in endo. Going into my first surgery of many, I was overwhelmed with emotions knowing that I could find my answer, but I had to face my biggest fear which was surgery.

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After the surgery, all I remember asking my mom is if I was OK and if they found it. Well, sure enough, they did, but I was a rare case where my tissue not only grew on the outside, but it grew under my ovaries where my nerves are that control all the pain. This was causing all my pain, but it wasn't this simple. Endometriosis is a lifelong disease. Hearing news like this was so scary, but knowing that I had supporters by my side was exactly what got me through.

As the years have gone on, I have tried multiple birth controls, surgeries to remove tissue and many different methods, but all have failed. I am now on a new journey with new methods that have better outcomes. Battling this disease has not only shown me that my body is capable of so much more physically than I ever thought it could be. What you input into your body can determine how you feel overall, and can be a huge effect on you not only physically but mentally. And finally you might be hit with trials that you never predicted, but you were put into your situation because YOU are strong enough to live it.

To all the girls that feel that they are alone for their painful periods not only during that time of the month but consistently. Please do your body a favor, and see a certified doctor. You never know what the signs of your symptoms could be telling you. You know your body the best, and if you feel off; there is a reason! March is the month of awareness for endometriosis. Your pain has a purpose and so do you.

Stay tuned for the second part of this series on endometriosis information, methods that helped me and bringing awareness to this disease.

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