The brain likes repetition and having a schedule. The brain doesn't want that to be disturbed, but when it does, it can change the way you go on with your everyday life. When you're in a relationship, you go to bed and wake up thinking about your significant other. You open up your mind and your soul to that person. You spend all of your time and money on that person, and once they leave, you're left with a hole that seems impossible to fill. You'll hear people say, "it'll all be okay in the end," or "you'll find someone better" but in all honesty, you feel hopeless. All you want is a person who doesn't want to be with you anymore, and it's not because you love them. It's not what "the heart wants." It's what your brain wants. And sometimes your brain can make you believe some crazy things about yourself.

Although the pain you feel now may seem unbearable, there is some truth to what everyone tells you. It will be okay, but just not right now. But you have to remember..

5. You are important

Rejection sucks, and it can bring up some messy parts of your past that you thought you would've forgotten about by now. You feel like you didn't mean that much to your former S/O because they left you, but there are so many people who think the world of you. You can't let someone's choices make you feel like less of a person. You are just as important as everyone else.

4. It's okay to not be okay

Life isn't a race to see who can pretend to be happy the longest. It's okay to be pissed off. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to be devastated. One day you'll wake up and it won't hurt anymore, but it takes time to be there. So cry as much as you want, and don't stop until you want to.

3. Your relationship wasn't a mistake, sometimes it's just a really shitty learning experience

For me, I spent over a year with someone who treated me like a queen and gave me the world. Everyone around me was jealous of the relationship I had because he was so perfect. Unfortunately, I had to learn that there is no such thing as perfect. He gave me the world, but he also gave me the "she's just a friend, you have nothing to worry about" speech, then started to have a relationship with that "friend" two weeks after we broke up. Biz Markie is always right. So lesson learned here, kids: Someone can treat you extremely well, but still be a shady person. When you begin to move on, you have to keep that in mind, and take off your rose-tinted glasses. PS if your S/O is texting someone else throughout your relationship but still claims to just be "friends," they plan on dating that person after your relationship ends, so be prepared for that, and know that it isn't your fault that some people will never be satisfied with their lives.

2. You're selfish- and you have every right to be

You just spent so much time and energy on someone else, who in the end didn't appreciate any of it. It's time for you to take time on yourself. Take a trip, work out more, or stay in and watch Netflix by yourself. Your friends and family will all understand, and in the end, you'll be glad you spent time figuring out who you are instead of rushing into a new relationship.

1. You can't force someone to love you, so you just have to let it be and move on

It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's the reality of the situation. Once you let everything go, you will feel relief that you haven't felt in weeks. Stop looking back at pictures, conversations or anything that reminds you of your former relationship. Delete, block, and unfollow that person on every site possible. Stop thinking about all the great times you had in the relationship and think about all the great times you're going to have in the future. If it's meant to be the it'll be. Clearly it wasn't meant to be... and that's okay.