5 Things To Do If Your World Is Falling Apart

5 Things To Do If Your World Is Falling Apart

It's time to take a step back and put yourself first.
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If you are a human, then you experience stress every now and then, whether it's school, or your job or for a reason you yourself don't even know. It may feel like your world is crashing down around you, leaving you feeling utterly helpless and hopeless. Here are some tips to help you through this scary time.

1. Breathe.

The best thing you can do for yourself right away is take deep, even breaths. Breathe in for eight seconds, then exhale for eight seconds. If this alone doesn't help, try doing this breathing while sitting with your head between your knees. Continue this for a minute or so, or until your head clears. This will greatly calm your brain and reduce your stress levels.

2. Talk to someone.

There's one thing that you need to remember when you're feeling this way: You are not alone. Though it may feel that way, I guarantee the person sitting on the other side of the room has felt the same way at some point of their lives. Get into contact with someone you know will listen to you, whether it's your best friend, your significant other, one of your professors or even a pet. Even if you don't want to talk, having another being in the room will make you feel less alone, and help you see that everything is going to be OK.

3. Get comfortable.

Take some time and treat yourself. Take a bath. Put on your most comfy pajamas. Eat that emergency junk food stashed behind your books. Wrap up in a blanket and listen to your favorite music, or watch that Netflix series or read that book that you've been putting off all semester. Letting yourself do something relaxing and fun will take your mind off of the issue for a while, making it shrink down from an impossible task, and into something you can manage.

4. Get organized.

Put on some tunes and tackle whatever mess you've been avoiding, whether it's your room, car, desk or just your calendar. It may take a while, but once your life is in order, and everything is back in it's place, you'll feel much more prepared to face whatever the universe is throwing your way.

5. Trust yourself.

Although times are tough right now, you are living proof that you can make it through this. You know how your mind works, and, in the end, you know what makes you happy.

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Bailey Posted A Racist Tweet, But That Does NOT Mean She Deserves To Be Fat Shamed

As a certified racist, does she deserve to be fat shamed?
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This morning, I was scrolling though my phone, rotating between Instagram, Snapchat, YouTube and Snapchat again, ignoring everyone's snaps but going through all the Snapchat subscription stories before stumbling on a Daily Mail article that piqued my interest. The article was one about a teen, Bailey, who was bullied for her figure, as seen on the snap below and the text exchange between Bailey and her mother, in which she begged for a change of clothes because people were making fun of her and taking pictures.

Like all viral things, quickly after her text pictures and harassing snaps surfaced, people internet stalked her social media. But, after some digging, it was found that Bailey had tweeted some racist remark.

Now, some are saying that because Bailey was clearly racist, she is undeserving of empathy and deserves to be fat-shamed. But does she? All humans, no matter how we try, are prejudiced in one way or another. If you can honestly tell me that you treat everyone with an equal amount of respect after a brief first impression, regardless of the state of their physical hygiene or the words that come out of their mouth, either you're a liar, or you're actually God. Yes, she tweeted some racist stuff. But does that mean that all hate she receives in all aspects of her life are justified?

On the other hand, Bailey was racist. And what comes around goes around. There was one user on Twitter who pointed out that as a racist, Bailey was a bully herself. And, quite honestly, everyone loves the downfall of the bully. The moment the bullies' victims stop cowering from fear and discover that they, too, have claws is the moment when the onlookers turn the tables and start jeering the bully instead. This is the moment the bully completely and utterly breaks, feeling the pain of their victims for the first time, and for the victims, the bully's demise is satisfying to watch.

While we'd all like to believe that the ideal is somewhere in between, in a happy medium where her racism is penalized but she also gets sympathy for being fat shamed, the reality is that the ideal is to be entirely empathetic. Help her through her tough time, with no backlash.

Bullies bully to dominate and to feel powerful. If we tell her that she's undeserving of any good in life because she tweeted some racist stuff, she will feel stifled and insignificant and awful. Maybe she'll also want to make someone else to feel as awful as she did for some random physical characteristic she has. Maybe, we might dehumanize her to the point where we feel that she's undeserving of anything, and she might forget the preciousness of life. Either one of the outcomes is unpleasant and disturbing and will not promote healthy tendencies within a person.

Instead, we should make her feel supported. We all have bad traits about ourselves, but they shouldn't define us. Maybe, through this experience, she'll realize how it feels to be prejudiced against based off physical characteristics. After all, it is our lowest points, our most desperate points in life, that provide us with another perspective to use while evaluating the world and everyone in it.

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15 Winter Dates For Couples Who'd Rather Snuggle Indoors Than Step Foot Outside

Do I wanna build a snowman? Uhhhh NO!

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Christmas time in New England can get pretty damn cold. I mean, we do have a few warm days, but for the most part, it's cold, windy, and sometimes snowy out. Now, if you're anything like me and you don't like the cold, typical Christmas dates might not be for you, but luckily there's plenty of cute dates that don't involve venturing out in the freezing abyss.

So get your hot chocolate, eggnog, ugly sweaters and festive pajamas ready because here are 15 fun winter dates that don't involve you and your partner leaving the house at all.

1. Ginger bread house competition

2. Classic Christmas movie marathon

3. Hallmark movie marathon

Only because my boyfriend's mom LOVES them.

4. Okay so really just any Christmas movie marathon.

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5. Making Christmas ornaments

6. Paper snowflake making competition

7. Baking and decorating (and eating!) Christmas cookies

8. Dance around to Christmas music

9. Make each other a new stocking

10. Write a letter to Santa

Super silly but super cute.

11. Take cute Christmas pictures

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Perfect time for those ugly Christmas sweaters or Christmas pajamas.

12. Decorate the Christmas tree

And you know the rest of the inside of the house.

13. Wrap presents together

14. Hang a mistletoe and kiss under it

15. Stay up tracking Santa

Don't forget to leave milk and cookies out for him, and carrots out for the reindeer.

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