I guess you could say that I classify myself an extrovert. I’ve been outgoing my entire life, and it has always been beneficial in almost every single type of social situations. Small talk never intimidated me, and awkward situations were just never really all that…well, awkward. I’m able to talk to just about anyone about anything, which I’ve always considered a blessing. I never once considered how it could be anything but that until I started looking at things from a perspective other than my own.
I have a serious boyfriend, and it wasn’t until recently that I started looking at my outgoing personality through his eyes. Obviously he knows how I am since we’re dating, but there are times that he struggles with it, and I reflecting on it, I honestly can’t blame him. It can be both a curse and a blessing depending on the situation at hand.
In the grand scheme of things, these are just a few of the many struggles every boyfriend has when his girlfriend is insanely outgoing.
1. Other guys get the wrong idea.
As a naturally outgoing girl, it sometimes comes as a surprise when small talk with random dudes turns into them taking your personality the wrong way. To some guys, any girl who is able to carry a conversation is deemed as “interested in them” when unfortunately that isn’t always the case… Understandably this can be annoying for any boyfriend.
2. On top of that, most guys also don’t take a hint.
Just because you’re outgoing doesn’t mean you’re flirting, but sometimes this needs to be reassured by dropping a hint or two to show you’re not interested. Sometimes guys don’t pick up what you put down or just genuinely don’t care that you may have a significant other. Either way, both scenarios are equally frustrating for your boyfriend.
3. You’re always running into/talking to people he’s most likely never met.
It’s not hard to put two and two together; if you’re outgoing, you know a lot of people. Sure, you’ve tried to fill your boyfriend in with names and stories of people you’ve met, but he can’t remember everyone. Chances are when the two of you are out, you’ll end up running into and catching up with someone he doesn’t know, which can cause some awkwardness.
4. He was “just a friend” once, too.
Being an outgoing girl often results in having more guy friends than your average shy gal. While in your mind they may be “just really good friends,” your boyfriend may have been in the same position prior to your relationship becoming official. It only makes sense that this can lead to some slight concerns.
5. He has accepted the fact that he can’t expect you to follow him around.
Your boyfriend knows you’re a social butterfly, so he doesn’t expect you to follow him around everywhere he goes (even if he secretly would like you to). As an outgoing girl, you tend to be a leader rather than a follower, which just shows that you’re not one to go with the crowd. At this point, he has accepted it as a part of your personality.
Dating a sociable girl certainly isn’t for every guy, but you should never feel forced to change your personality for anyone. At the end of the day, the best part is that in your case, you don’t have to. Your boyfriend loves you and your overly outgoing personality, and he wouldn’t have it any other way. After all, at the end of the day he knows you only have eyes for him, which is what’s most important anyway.
