Toxic friends and family—we all have them. You know the ones who continue to degrade you, talk about you behind your back and thrive on drama? It’s time to cut them off! These five signs will help you to define and, if need be, let go of these frenemies for good.
1. Social media statuses are always negative
Is every share or post about how depressed/angry/sad/lonely they are? Do they seem to thrive on attention? If you answered yes to any of these questions, your friend may be toxic. Sure we all have bad days and are in need of a little sympathy from time to time, but if you scroll through your newsfeed and feel like you need a stiff drink (or 10), it’s time to unfriend, or at the very least unfollow them.
2. Gossip, gossip, gossip
While it is completely normal to ask how someone is that you haven’t seen for a long time, it is not normal nor acceptable to dish out the dirt on virtually everyone your friend knows. If he or she is telling you everyone else’s problems, then what are they saying about you to everyone else? Betrayal of trust is a deal breaker in most relationships. If you cannot trust your friend, it’s time to walk away for good.
3. Unsupportive and/or rude
Did you get a new job, get engaged or just had a really cool thing happen and your friend doesn’t care to share in the celebration? Did they tell you that you won’t do well or don’t deserve it? Friends are supposed to lift one another up, not knock you down. If your friends aren’t supportive of your endeavors, find new friends quick!
4. You would be prettier if…
Does your friend try to change you? Do they expect you to act, dress or look a certain way when you are out with them? Of course, if you are going to a fancy dinner at the local yacht club you should wear something besides torn jeans, but if your friend is constantly telling you how awful you look in your favorite sweater or putting you down because you keep your hair a certain way then your friend isn’t accepting your individuality. It’s time to say goodbye and hang out with people who like you for you!
5. You dread being around them
If you get headaches, knots in your stomach or anxiety attacks every time your friend calls or you are supposed to get together, your body knows that friend is bad news. Next time don't answer the call or agree to go out with them and see how much better you feel!
As humans we all need companionship and love, but not at the expense of our own physical or mental health. If your friends are exhibiting any of these signs or other signs of emotional abuse, reevaluate the relationship and don’t be afraid to end it, with 7 billion people on the planet you will surely find your tribe.
