As females, our most basic desire…is to be desired by the guys we desire. This comes first through thoughts, then a craving, and finally, a deep desire. We become obsessed with making this one guy return the affection we so obviously deserve. So when guys send us on and off signals, how can we be so sure they actually like us? In Justin Bieber's words, What do you mean?
Well, luckily for girls everywhere, I’m coming to the rescue! With the experience I have gathered from listening to the males around me (and maybe a heartbreak or two) I will give you ten common signs that’ll let you know whether he actually likes you…or if he’s just not that into you.
1.) Does he call/text you often or set up dates?
When a guy sincerely has a thing for you, there is no way he could go two weeks without calling you to hear your voice, or making plans for lunch to see your face. This is not a case of ‘out of sight, out of mind.’ If he likes you, you’ll definitely occupy his mind. So when he can go that long without calling or reaching out to you, sorry to say, he probably has other girls (or things) that he deems more worthy of his time.
2.) The way he looks at you.
The way a guy looks at you from time to time goes a long way in determining whether he thinks of you as a friend or more, especially when you aren’t looking. Guys have a way of decoding their well-hidden feelings in their eyes. Do you ever catch him staring at you, and then have him suddenly jerk away his eyes? Or does he always lean in towards you when you speak? This shows that he’s giving you his undivided attention. If he doesn’t make eye contact during a conversation and just looks at you the same way he would one of his buddies, then maybe that’s all you are to him- one of his buddies.
3.) He confides in you.
This is crucial. Does your crush tell you things he doesn’t usually tell other people? Does he feel comfortable around you like he can talk to you about anything? If he does, then that’s a promising sign. If your conversations dwell only on school, the latest assignment, or the weather, forget it. If the conversations usually die down with neither if you knowing what to say next, forget it. He won’t think you an exciting person, and chances are, his heart probably isn’t where you are.
4.) Does he see a future with you?
A guy can only hide his feelings for so long. It has to come out one way or another. A guy that loves you will say so in many different ways and will express his longing to be with you. If he’s shy, it may come out as a suggestion, and he will try to make it as casual as possible. Does he joke about marrying you or even about the names of your future children? Trust me, it’s no joke. No guy will ever joke about his future with a girl. He wouldn’t want to put those thoughts into your head.
5.) And, finally, does he tell you?
I know it may sound farfetched, but any guy who wouldn’t ever want to lose you will actually tell you. If he’s too shy to, he will definitely drop hints to let you know he thinks of you as his. The last thing he would want is you walking away from him into the arms of another man, so he’s going to tell you. He may not just call you up one day and say, “Hey, you know I love you right?” Actions speak much louder than words. It’s up to you to use your girly instincts to decipher his actions. Does he get upset or uneasy when you talk about other guys? Or does it not bother him? Does he like making physical contact during conversations? Little things matter. Some bold guys will just come right out and say it. The trick is to always stay alert, and at the same time, not read too much into everything he does. You’ll know in time whether he loves you, or if he’s just not that into you.
So there you have it. 5 common telltale signs to know if he feels the same way. Always keep in mind that, whether you know it or not, the right guy will and must come your way...otherwise the balance of the universe will collapse. Just don’t miss a diamond while trying to pick up stones. Ciao!
