To Everyone Who Cried On New Year's Day

To Everyone Who Cried On New Year's Day

It's hard to accept sadness on a day that's supposed to be filled with happiness.


There's something about New Year's Day that always brings up emotions I didn't even know I was holding onto. But what is it exactly that makes New Year's Day so emotional and, sometimes, even sad?

Around the holidays, there's such heightened pressure to be happy. It's hard to accept your true feelings while desperately holding onto the idealized way that things are "supposed" to be. Everyone struggles with their emotions sometimes, but there's such a sense of guilt that comes along with feeling sad on the holidays. It almost seems like if you're not having the best day of your life, you're doing something wrong.

In my experience, I always fail to keep those bottled-up, negative emotions inside. These feelings almost always rise to the surface with more intensity than they would've had if I had just dealt with them originally. Before I know it, all of my unacknowledged sadness, confusion, and worries from the past year are spilling out of me, and I have no idea how to even begin to manage it all.

If you cried on New Year's Day as I did, here is what I want to tell you:

You don't ever have to apologize for feeling a certain way. Emotions are strange, and the worst ones always seem to show up at the wrong times. But making yourself feel guilty for feeling them as if you've missed out on or ruined something, will only make you feel worse in the long run. Let yourself feel, and let those feelings run their course. Pushing down your true emotions to power through an arbitrary holiday is not healthy, and it doesn't really make sense either.

You do not have to worry about starting the year off on a "bad" note because being sad isn't a bad thing, it's just something that happens sometimes. Feeling sad is inevitable. This year is not predestined, it is what you decide to make it. This year will become what you want it to be. So don't take no for an answer, and don't take melancholia for a curse. The next 364 days are yours to fill with whatever you choose.

Remember that the best times cannot exist without some sad times along the way. All of this is just part of your journey. And if it just feels like a whole lot of bad times right now, at least you know that the good times are waiting ahead.

Be happy. Be sad. Be whatever you need to be in this moment. Whatever you are, just let yourself be.

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I Should Hate Valentine's Day, But I Really Don't

Based on my track record with love, celebrating should be out of the question.


Everything about romance and love and Valentine's Day should disgust me. Romance isn't something I'm very familiar with and my run-ins with it haven't been too great. But love is such a beautiful emotion and I would argue it's the most powerful.

That's why Valentine's Day is one of my favorite holidays.

It's undeniably a corporate holiday and I never ignore that. But we don't have to make it about greeting cards and heart-shaped chocolates. It's the idea of having a day that revolves around the emotion that controls everything that is good in the world. Because of how much I enjoy showing love, I'm totally for having a day to express it at full volume.

With no one extra special person to share the day with and very few friends who are single like me, it would be easy to stay bitter and spend the day cursing at relationships while I shovel in an endless amount of ice cream. But that's never been how I do things. Taking the easy way out isn't my style.

I celebrate February 14th by taking in and giving out so much love. I look forward to sharing every ounce of joy that exists in my heart. I want to give so much extra love to all the people I care about.

Life sometimes gets in the way of expressing love in the right way and Valentine's Day grants us an opportunity to really focus on it. There's nothing wrong with showing people they're being thought of.

It's also a chance for us to really love ourselves, and I make sure I do that. I try to practice self-care all the time, but I don't always get the chance to. But on Valentine's Day, I like to remind myself that love exists and it's beautiful and I owe it to myself to experience that.

Even if it's on my own and it's just a face mask and some quiet time. It's so important to be conscious of love and the meaning behind it.

Not being able to experience the typical traditions of Valentine's Day shouldn't take away from celebrating it all together. Fellow single friends can do a Galentine's Day and love each other. And if that doesn't work either, we can just love ourselves a little extra to make up for where it gets lost.

With all the negativity in the world already, we shouldn't let a day of love be negative too. We should put our hearts on our sleeves instead.

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10 Easy Ways To Incorporate Essential Oils Into Your Life

You're gonna wanna stock up on your favorite fragrances!


1. Get a diffuser or 8

You know, one for each room? I highly recommend having one in a bedroom and a living area, rooms you spend a lot of time in. For me, I have mine on my desk in my office. Currently diffusing sweet orange to engage my creativity and energy. For the bedroom nothing beats smelling a calm lavender when falling asleep.

2. The new bath bomb

A few drops of a relaxing scent will take your bath to the next level! Try with a peppermint or eucalyptus to relieve tension and sore muscles.

3. Direct application

Sweet orange essential oils are known to help with headaches and stomach cramps. The next time you are faced with these symptoms try applying a small amount to your temples or abdomen.

4. Keeps things fresh and clean

A few drops of a fruity oil on a tissue to use as a facial cleanser when you need a refresher.

5. Shoes will thank you

Tea tree is known for for deodorizing and medicinal. A few drops in a show will have them smelling brand new.

6. Forget lotion

Up your massage game with oils and skip the lotion. A musky and herby blend is great for muscles and most floral scents can be most invigorating.

7. All natural

Essential oils are all natural so you can ease your mind and know you're filling your home and body with something good for you.

8. Purifying the air

Along with filling a room with a sweet scent you are purifying the air.

9. Enhancing quiet time

Relaxing sometimes can use a hand and having a diffuser nearby can help with concentration and meditation.

10. Healing powers

Got bug bites? Use tea tree. Cough? Rosemary or peppermint. Sleepless? Lavender.

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